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Re: Life can be a Pain

@Dec Heart

It was OK for me to take mum to the hospital for redressing and then back home again

But  they, (doctor and nurses) because we live in a all town found out I was still working 

So self isolating now with just checking up on mum and buying what we need 

Soo poor Mr shaz has been asleep all afternoon

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There are people and posts I need to try to avoid at times too @Dec Sometimes there is only so much negativity we can take and still be able to look after ourselves - so well done on recognising that and taking steps to deal with it. 👍

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Hi @Zoe7  and @Shaz51 

 

Yes - for my own good it was time to set an example and take time for myself.

 

I found I had plenty to do but for a while it seemed I was watching the News on TV nearly all the time - it kept changing so I felt I needed to know

 

But there are always things to do. I needed a break too - life itself served up a good turn when I had the facet joint injections - it's sounds scary to have a procedure like that but I have learned how to relax. I had a private room and after getting to the hospital ridiculously early and having intense attention getting booked in a settled down to breathe quietly and the next thing it was some time later and I'd had a long sleep. That was 3.5 weeks ago and they are still working which is fantastic. I was only in hospital for the day and the care was fantastic

 

Dec

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It is great that the injection has helped so well @Dec - really pleased for you Heart

 

Yes sometimes we need that break. I actually find there is a lot of enabling happening and that does nothing to really help some people. There is a fine line between support and encouraging/enabling consistent behaviours which are detrimental to the individual(s) involved. It is not that people actually mean harm but by default that is what happens. Sometimes the truth is hard and that is something I have always valued from you - honesty and truth. 

 

Great to have you back Heart

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Thanks @Zoe7 

 

Your post means a huge amount to me.

 

I have noticed the enabling - I had a hard time with Tough Love irl - as you know - but I learned a lot through that time and enabling is not in my plans at all. It doesn't help and can cause more pain.

 

It is said the truth can hurt - so I handle that with care - always taking the time to value the person and really try and separate the person from the behaviour

 

Yet I know people mean well with enabling - not knowing what it means probably. What can we do about that - perhaps that's a discussion to have with the moderators on a Tuesday evening 

 

Dec

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BTW @Zoe7 

 

The injections were diagnostic - they were local anaesthetic - but the specialist could see that the L5 verterbrae is badly damaged and really has been causing me a lot of pain. It was incredible when the specialis saw me in recovery and told me that I must have been having a lot of pain from that vertebrae. Fantastic - I felt vindicated. I always knew I was not an addict but the physical proof. Wow - 

 

In the future I can have what is called Radio Frequency something - which will make the procedure last a lot longer. This is making such a difference to my life. I am taking a lot less medication - I still have some distance to go but having those injections gave me the right kind of enabling

 

Dec

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Hey @Dec I see you being caring and considerate whilst also telling the truth as you see it - you have the balance right in my opinion nd that is a real skill. We can still care for people whilst also being honest with what we see and how we see things unfolding - so continue being yourself and providing that insight that you so obviously have Heart

 

I am so pleased you have less pain with this new treatment. Pain is so hard to get under control when it is long term and persistent. It will make such a difference to your life to have this and following procedures done - so very pleased for you Heart

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Soo pleased for you too @Dec 

Having pain is not good all the time xxxx

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Thanks @Zoe7 

 

We can think about things and pray if so inclined and yes - life will pan out as it always does. I think our country is doing a lot to help everyone - let's hope everyone can do their best to help our country

 

@Zoe7 @Shaz51 @Maggie @Gazza75 @BlueBay 

 

It's a lovely day in Melbourne - after several cool and indifferent, cloudy weather - it's so nice to sit here near the open door and smell the fresh air. Wonderful

 

I have domestic and shopping today with a person I know will do the domestic work well but is totally useless with the shopping so I thought about things. I can get a lot from the local shop - no toilet paper - but ordinary things yes.

 

I am really picky with fruit, vegies and meat so I will go with this lady - and yes - she is a nice person - and choose my own items and leave it at that - and go as soon as she gets here and hope the supermarket isn't busy. Life is different and we can only do our best - and that "best" has to move around a bit and be whatever it can be.

 

I have to see the funny side of life and maybe putting my little, tiny teddy bear in my front window is doing what some people are doing - there are children living here so I wonder when they will notice it. I must take his photo because he is cute. Also - laugh because there is a person who does advertising on a morning show and I always get up and mute the TV when she comes on - the voice is like finger-nails on a black board to me. So I changed channel and guess what - she's advertising on that channel too. Oh agony - in a world full of change and concerns such trivia can still irritate us

 

My opinion - let's feel irritated about the small things and mute the issue if possible - they are trivial - COVID-19 is not.

 

So - before my helper turns up I am going to cut that flat sheet that has never been used but recently washed - yes - and make my own mask. Or wait - I might have a scarf I could use - better still

 

My word for today - or words - is to laugh about our human nature - and recognise that the uncertain and scary things in this world are unpleasant and very muich there. Keep our focus on what is happening right now and just keep the future in mind and don't let it dominate our thought, intrusive as it is.

 

Remember to breathe - that is the only thing we really have to do - things will be tricky enough but so much worse if we don't breathe

 

G'day from Dec

 

"Always look on the bright side of life " and pass the love around"Always look on the bright side of life " and pass the love around

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Love you @Dec Heart

I am sitting here with a cuppa 

Having a break from the bookwork, recharging my mobile phone 

Got no computer back yet, -- love to have my computer so I can put hundreds of pictures and hugs on the forum 

Sitting here listening to all the heavy rain 

Need some milk and bread soon , but no car 

Mr shaz will have to use my milk :ha ha 

@Zoe7 , @BlueBay , @Maggie 

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