disclosing very uncomfortable information

[utopia]

Hi @Former-Member. Sorry I've been away for a few hours.
My 5 year old niece had ballet class. Hilarious to watch kids try to jump and clap at the same time. Coordination like that takes practice.
Had my meditation class tonight. Was such a beautiful experience tonight. I could feel the ancestors (particularly the Grandmothers) around me.
When the session finished tho - I had a numb foot. Lol

[Former-Member]

hey guys @utopia@Former-Member@Doc_Gonzo@Jek@Former-Member

can you take a look at my other thread and let me know what you think? its under am i complaining too much or should i jus get over it?

[Former-Member]

I found PP just as good as Grey's. I know it wasn't as popular but I loved it! If you can get your hands on PP there's a stack of distraction hours you won't have to worry about haha 😉

I don't watch TV shows and get my screen time through netflix or play store so I don't know 2 broke girls but I've heard it's funny.

I've just taken night meds and might fall asleep soon (i hope so!).

If I do, I hope you have a peaceful night. Thank you for the chat - I've enjoyed the distraction too

[Former-Member]

I'll have a quick look now and see if i can reply before i sleep

[Former-Member]

thats great @utopia

my sister loves dancing but havent enrolled her in it yet. i find kids are very amusing to watch esp when they are in their own little world

[Former-Member]

Ps hi @utopia your class sounds lovely!

[Former-Member]

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@mohill wrote:

Hello @Former-Member

You are very brave to attempt to pose a very confidential question. That actually takes much courage.

I want to advise you not to write anything on the site. You are best talking to someone who is qualified and governed by laws and regulations re confidentiality. 

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Hi @Former-Member

I second the above. I learned that the hard way. But speak to someone you can trust and whom is qualified to advise you appropriately. Wishing you all the best care 🙂

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member - i had a look at your thread and tried to write a coherent response and struggled (foggy brain now). My short answer is that I don't think it's at all unreasonable to seek support from your friend and feel not great if it's not there. Hoping others might have something to add that's more helpful.

Sleep well 🙂

[Ellu]

Dear Scared01, I have been following this thread and feel  I really need to let you know a few things. First, I sympathise with you and understand what you are going through. I am currently in psychoanalysis, and disclosing things from my past is really difficult. First I have to get up the courage to do it, then the actual telling always feels terrible.But talking it all through with my analyst helps me cope with trauma with the past and gives me permission to be the person I am. It really helps. One thing I must say is be careful who you disclose to. A friend or family member might not have the expetise to support you through it. I would talk to a trained professional - counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist whatever. These people have the training to help you through the process of disclosure, and help you deal with your feelings afterwards.

\As forthe self harm, we all know it is  way of expressing intense emotions and feelings which we are not dealing with. I suspect that when you have managed to disclose your past the self harm will lessen or even disappear. Whatever you do, please, please don't feel ashamed or guilty about your situation. 

You have a mental issue to resolve, and that is just as painful and upsetting as a physical issue.

Do, please talk to someoe professional who can help. I have been through depression, self-disclosure and self harm, and with the help of a wonderful doctor I have managed to get  through all these and live a full and challenging life. I've been there.You can do it.

Ellu