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29-05-2023 05:12 PM
29-05-2023 05:12 PM
“I don’t need people” state of mind
Lately I’ve found myself withdrawing more and more into myself. I’m not sure if this is a trauma response or maybe I am burnt out because things were rough for so long. The recent Uni assignments plus mixed episode (funny how the brain can experience depressive and hypo manic symptoms all at once) has left me emotionally exhausted and lousy. Like I am in a better place now, I no longer feel like ending myself, or look for ways how I could do it. I feel a lack of motivation to socialise, even come on these forums or call helplines when I start feeling anxious. Like I rather just depend on myself, because we live alone, deal with things alone and leave this world alone. I just don’t feel bothered either, I rather just do things to distract myself. Maybe I’m feeling the anxiety more because I didn’t sleep well, you gotta thank the earth for that good shake last night
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29-05-2023 05:25 PM - edited 29-05-2023 05:30 PM
29-05-2023 05:25 PM - edited 29-05-2023 05:30 PM
Re: “I don’t need people” state of mind
I truly believe we are made for connection...
But there are times, aswell, where solitude is as necessary as winter snow to those darlings who shelter there...
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29-05-2023 05:57 PM
29-05-2023 05:57 PM
Re: “I don’t need people” state of mind
@creative_writer I agree with @Kyle1 that we are meant to connect - it's in our biology. But it's also a balance, in finding both time to feel connected and time to feel independent. Especially if the connections we do have are causing us grief, stress, or otherwise not serving our best interests. It sounds like you are taking the time to really focus inward, and that can be a truly wonderful thing. Don't hide away from connection too long though - only as long as it continues to be helpful 💜
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29-05-2023 06:18 PM
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29-05-2023 06:27 PM
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Re: “I don’t need people” state of mind
@creative_writer Oh I feel that... masking is exhausting. It can be really awful to feel like no one ever really sees the real you. Have you ever found anyone you could be more yourself with, even a little bit? I think for me, finding connections that allowed me to be authentic and accepted only happened after I decided to be my most weird, ridiculous version of myself, i.e. my true self. If being yourself has lost you friends in the past, then those just weren't the right people for you in the end. It can feel really uncomfortable, downright awful at first, to unmask... but when you find the people who have the same vibe as yours, it gets a lot easier... I hope you can find it for yourself some day.
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29-05-2023 07:20 PM
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29-05-2023 09:15 PM
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Re: “I don’t need people” state of mind
Hey @creative_writer @what are you studying?
are you taking time to enjoy life and practicing regular daily self care. Good to hear you are feeling a little better.
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29-05-2023 09:30 PM
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29-05-2023 09:36 PM
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Re: “I don’t need people” state of mind
@creative_writer Oh cool. What is the social work course like, Are you enjoying it.? I studied psychology for a bit but was not able to do it. Would love to go back to uni one day.
it’s great that you have some tools. Do you have anything that you can do that is enjoyable.?
What are the things in life that really make you happy? It’s ok if you do t know. I’m trying to figure that out for myself as part of my journey. I am going to start trying new things.
do you think there is something missing or Something you need but are not getting?
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29-05-2023 10:48 PM
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