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03-08-2016 02:07 PM
03-08-2016 02:07 PM
brother Inlaw funeral
Hey, Everyone. feeling very anxious today. Found out my brother- in - law passed away. Funeral Friday. feel I have to go out of respect. have not met him. but respect the fact that he was my sister's husband. The trouble is this sister has caused me a lot of problems. And never help me through events that happen when my husband was going through Cancer. he is in Remission now. I dealt with all by myself with not even a phone call from any of my Family and at the time my this sister didn't have anywhere to stay so I took her in and look after her emotionally and physically. She caused problems with my son as well as my husband and her criticism of me daily eventually I had to ask her to leave. Should I go out of respect or will this be seen as false
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03-08-2016 04:46 PM
03-08-2016 04:46 PM
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03-08-2016 05:31 PM
03-08-2016 05:31 PM
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which much thought and argument with husband. I will go to the funeral but only to the church service. then I'll come home. times like this I think I need to put the past in the past and deal with the present situation. Do love my sister enough to do that.
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03-08-2016 09:05 PM
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04-08-2016 03:19 AM
04-08-2016 03:19 AM
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I do love her, I just wish our parents had taught us to apologise to each other. I feel always the person who goes on forgiving to spite what they say and do to me. Just have dig a bit deeper for the day. without resentment
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05-08-2016 05:22 PM
05-08-2016 05:22 PM
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Well got up at 6am to go to the funeral drove a long way to pick up my brother. and then he told me my sister does not want me there because she does not want any tension on the day. as if I would cause any problems for her especially today her husband's funeral (ain't family fun) I'm mainly angry because she hurt my husband. so dropped my brother off. and came home. I think the fact that she said it invited only as thou we were the scum of the earth is what hurt me. My other sister sent the invite to me. It's so hard to live without the support of my sisters and family. but I'm sure there are people who do?
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05-08-2016 05:37 PM
05-08-2016 05:37 PM
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Yes @hope77 I have a "sister" whom I adored and cared for a lot throughout her life. She is 11 years younger than I, and I babysat and took her to theatre activities and holidays. We all spoilt her a bit I guess. She had a completely different experience of life and my mother to we 4 older siblings. Still I loved her and then forgave and forgave and the 77x7 biblical quote was brought up a lot. It would have been a lot better for me if I realised the depth and stubborness of her hostility a lot earlier .... but I am what I am ... and kept reaching out not really comprehending. Since I have detached in the last 5 years it has been better for me. I am inwardly more prepared to deal with my disappointment in her stances if I have to meet her for extended family.
Take care @hope77
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11-08-2016 01:02 PM
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13-08-2016 09:48 AM
13-08-2016 09:48 AM
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I feel for you.
Keep strong your Hearts in the right place.
Unfortunately i chose to break away from my family & daughter inlaw.
They havent made my life pleasant at all.
One family member in particular.
Always when i mentioned i wasnt feeling well.
They would say, are you on your meds.
I comment that meds help.
Though they dont change your issues or your thinking patterns.
If only we could switch those thoughts off.
I wish you well.
And Hope you feel stronger soon.
Since i chose the way things will be with those family members & extended ones.
I am less Stressed & feel really posative in my life.
I am also very Greatful to have my Beautiful Caring Friends that are always their for me.
Take care 😇