Life after hospital

[Decadian]

Hey @utopia

I want to go on the Jumping Castle - what fun - and I can't do it any younger

But then....................

Remember Cup Day 1987 - we went to Luna Park and I stayed on the Big Dipper and used up all my tickets having one ride after the other - great day - best half-hour or however long

Next day - awwwwww - ah - I still enjoy the memory but I am giving the Jumping Castle a miss until my 100th birthday

Dec

[utopia]

@Decadian. I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. I've read a number of books on the Southern Aboriginal tribes of Australia. Yes the men hunted big game. But the women grabbed small game as they were teaching the younger ones. They found the greens and berries and tubers and they set up camp - ready for the hunters to return. Not always with game. So the women were the main providers of the everyday basic foods.<br>I haven't been on a jumping castle or trampoline since I birthed my son. Talk about another womans issue. But I've decided this week - enough is enough - I'm going to get an appointment with an incontinence nurse / physio and once and for all deal with this stress incontinence. <br>Watch this space next year - I'll be taking over the jumping castle. The kids will just have to wait their turn. Lol<br>I'm about to take my meds and go to bed. Sweet dreams

[Faith-and-Hope]

Good for you @utopia ❣

Goodnight .... 💕💤

[Decadian]

Yes @utopia

Women were consistent in finding the basics for a meal - the men might return a member short - hunting was no sport - it was the real deal - and men died doing it

I have read a bit on the Southern Indigneous People - my son's ancestors might have been - most likely have been - from this part of Southern Victoria.

I saw the movie from the book Along the Rabbit Proof Fence - great book - great movie - the women caught a goanna in that movie - that was in the desert

Stress incontinence - yes - get something done about it if you can - it would be unpleasant - I have a very small amount of (why is this so hard to talk about?) - there is a product for this condition I use - and it is certainly not bad enough to have anything done about it - this might change though

At the clinic where I go there are lots of things suggested andd/or advertised - and stress-incontinence is one of them - and if it is bad enough to be noticed then it is bad enough to have it attended too

Decadian

[utopia]

@Decadian. Yes I wouldn't want to be a hunter. Dangerous work. That's why the women needed to gather as well. You just never knew if your husband would return from the hunt.
Having moved from Melbourne to the country I've been trying to find as much information as I can on our local clans. My local librarian has been fantastic at sourcing me books.
It still frustrates me that the local museum starts their history with white settlers and makes no mention of the lical aboriginal tribe.Even though we kknow some of their history from their descendants.

[Decadian]

Women are very important and more interesting too @utopia

I was a tomboy and the idea of being a "young lady" horrified me - but I have learned that being a woman and and emancipated woman - I have the best of choices - though this was not always true

Perhaps I have been one of the women who has been very active in changing things - if we are proactive we can never know what seed of our thought spoken falls where and for whom and where it is carried

We change the world and don't really know it - well - with my son I did change things - I have the hard copies of all that I did when I was into all of that in the past

And yes - of course the white people - the in-comers - the usurpers - wrote the history books - I have yet to go to  see Aboriginal painting etc - and I believe our Indigneous people were literate - they had an oral tradition and it was valuable - we should not wake the dragon (Rainbow Serpent) - sleeping under Kakadu

I saw quite a few aboriginal women in Canberra - and made an excuse to talk to them - I felt really happy doing that

Still - I can get flashbacks if I look into everything too much - I did work for 10 years and that was enough - I had to stop and now I do not want to get into it too much for fear of a backlash emotionally

But still - I care so much about the First People everywhere - on NITV I saw a programme called We were Children - two American Indians told their stories about being abused in Government Boarding Schools and their parents sent them there in good faith so they would have a Western education

This is enough - it's late - I don't need to go on and on tonight - but yes - I read what I can

Decadian

[BlueBay]

Some days I just don't understand my husband.

I am so annoyed, he cracks it at the most stupidest things. For eg. the back door was not locked, it was closed but not locked. He has to check every single door so many times during the night before he goes to bed to see if it is locked. So he went just then and cracks it because it's not locked.

There are so many other things to worry about insteadhe is cracking it over dumb things.  Like boys runners out the front door.

The phone rang before and he cracks it because he thought it was the nursing home again. They rang again last night.  So he says tonight, no i am not talking to them, i am watching this show on tv. so i grab the phone and it was for him, it was his boss.  i really thinks he needs to speak to a grief counsellor; even his work boss suggested it but oh no he won't go.  he doesn't think he has a problem.

This is why i feel i need to get away.

[Faith-and-Hope]

@BlueBay

Hugs .... ❤️💕

It's hard when someone is grouchy with you ....

[BlueBay]

@Faith-and-Hope

so do i just ignore him and his 'issues'.

at the moment i am just pretending i am not listening.  i have so much of my own issues that i can't take on anyone elses.

even when i was in hospital last night, he came to pick me up this morning but if i didn't tell him what happened, he didn't ask. 

and you know what annoys me - my 23 yr old son said to hubby last night - oh i don't know why mum had to go to hospital; she takes too many meds, she should not take them.  What the hell - if i need blood pressure meds, i need to take them; and the same for the AD.  And my husbad didn't say anything, he just tells me what our son had said.

he should have said something to our son, actually to all kids. it is so annoying how blaise he is with my mental health.

sometimes i think it would be so much easier if i had a broken bone.

[Faith-and-Hope]

I'm sure it can feel like that sometimes @BlueBay .... but you are all under quite a bit of pressure ....

You are the "patient" at the moment though .... cos you're the one needing treatment and medication ... and you need to self-care even when your family need a bit of a break .... and carers do need a break so they don't burn out ...

Try not to take what your hubby is saying - not saying - doing - not doing too much to heart .... his year has been hard on him too.

You will all get through this, but it sounds like everybody's elastic is fully stretched at the moment ....

Maybe some down-time is due for everybody .... 

Can you watch a comedy on TV together tonight ?  Something a bit light-hearted ?  And hot chocolate all round ? A family-pampering night ?

Just a thought ....

💜💕