Life after hospital

[Decadian]

Hi @BlueBay

Those dreams are horrible - recurring dreams show there is deep unresolved issues - and no wonder - with the abusers - I wonder if we can really ever overcome that kind of nightmare.

I re-wrote the end of my recurring nightmare a long time ago - I was in a private psyche clinic at the time and the psyschiatrist suggested I re-write the end of the nightmare - that very day - right after my session with him - and he also told the nurses that I might scream during the night -

So I did - and in time learned to wake myself up before the end of the nightmare - maybe you could talk this over with your therapist - a different subject anyway - it might be like a change of environment

Have you had the chance to talk about taking a few days away with your husband so both of you can recharge your batteries - you could go from Friday night and return Sunday night and you don't have to go far - I have a strong feeling that you need this - because you want to run away -

You are in my thoughts

Decadian

[utopia]

How are you going today @BlueBay? Been for a walk along the beach yet? Was lovely and sunny here this morning. Just starting to cloud over now. Expecting rain late this afternoon and tomorrow.

[BlueBay]

Hi @Decadian

I hate having these dreams.  They stay with me for a long time, they are so visual and in detail.  I must tell my psych; was thinking of phoning him on monday as my headaches are still with me and my BP is still quite high 145/98 pulse 102.  i am going to lay down soon and have a rest.

That's a good point you mentioned - maybe i can ask my psych or therapist to help me with that.

I mentioned to hubby yesterday that we should go camping for a few days (Fri-Sund or even mon) and he said we have too many bills to pay.  I said it would be good for him because of his mum's issues.  and it would be good for me too.

so now i don't know;  i know it wouldn't cost a lot if we went to a cvaravan park and brought our tent.

i will work on that.  yes this running away is still on my mind and it is getting stronger each day.

Hope you are well @Decadian xxxooo

[BlueBay]

Hi @utopia

Worked this morning 9.30-12.30 and then had lunch.  Hubby put all the washing out so that's dried.  Washed Jersey in the backyard. and now i am inside thinking i will lay down for  a while as my BP is still high.

i would love to go for  a walk but i have no motivation atm.  i think my headache is wanting me to just rest.

if not today i will definitely go for a walk tomorrow.  it is still sunny here, hopefully it won't rain for a while.

how are you today @utopia are you feeling better? xxxooo

[utopia]

@BlueBay. I forgot you were working this morning. No wonder you need a rest. Your bp is what mine is like -& I take medication for it. Without the meds I'm into the 190 / 110 & above range. So this is good for me. A friend just sent me a post about how celery juice helps reduce blood pressure. I'll go shopping next week and buy heaps of celery and borrow my mums juicer and see how I go. Worth a try anyway. Can't do me any harm.
My nose has dried up a lot. The head cold I s almost gone. But it has moved to my chest and every cough feels like being kicked in the ribs. So I'm sitting up in bed - with four pillows. If I lie down I cough more. But like you - I could do with a rest. Running out of energy. And it's hard to keep positive when I'm feeling sick. But I'm managing.
Sent my son and my sister to my best friends daughters birthday party - don't want to infect anyone - but I was looking forward to pretending I'm not middle aged and going on the jumping castle. Oh well. Next year.

[Decadian]

Hi @BlueBay

Ahhhhhhhhh - husbands!!!!

Suggest to him that it would cost more if you didn't work - a couple of days away is not going to break the bank

I can say that as a mother-in-law I think I make a pretty good score - I do not interfer in my dd and sil's marriage - the only thing I suggest or agree out loud with is that they take time to spend together away from their 4 adult children - and they do

So - imo - it's essential to have quality time with your partner, husband, wife, whatever in the long term relationship stakes

I am feeling better today but taking things quietly - the UTI was a bad one - last night even after the antibiotics I felt crappy - and in too much pain to sleep - and so I got my computer and fell asleep with it on my bed - not planned - but I did sleep for hours and that made a difference - mainly I was tired I think - but those stomach cramps - I know you had them and if you get them again after a pelvic exam think - that could be the cause - definately - pressure on your bladder from the internal examination

The things we women have to have happen - [squawk]

Short story - today I am feeling a bit tired but so much better than I felt during the week - I was so ill and thought it would clear up with urals and lots of water - but no - I am on antibiotics

All the best about a few days away

Decadian

[utopia]

Hi @Decadian. I'm sorry to hear you have been sick. Thank God for Antibiotics. I'm like you. I try the Ural first with plenty of extra water, but sometimes - it's not enough.
Yes women and our bodies - we do go through some hard and some annoying things - simply by being female. But for all that - I'm glad I'm a girl. Women are strong!

[BlueBay]

@Decadian

I'm working on getting hubby to go camping at this beautiful caravan park.  All he needs to do is take friday and monday off and we are set.  it wouldn't cost much to camp on a site.  we have been to this place before and it is huge with lots to do, indoor pool, tennis courts and the amenities are very clean 🙂

We have never roughed it before so that's why we keep going back to this place for camping. and it would only cost $40 a night for a powered site.

I'll keep working on it and hopefully before the end of next week i'll have it booked 🙂

friends of ours just asked to go to the city for the night leaving tomorrow.  but hubby works on monday and we don't have money to spend in the city. plus i think it is better if i stay home or close to home with my high BP.  i prefer just to sit and relax instead of walking around the city all day long.

glad you got onto the antibiotics, they will clear things up quickly.  have a nice rest. chat later.

[Decadian]

Hi @BlueBay

Yes - work on your husband for a $40.00 night accommodation - Oh gollygosh - what I paid for 4 star in Canberra - and loved every minutes of - a break will do you both the world of good

He needs the break too - quality time with plenty of things to do where you don't have to go far - and no phone calls at night -

Decadian

[Decadian]

Thanks @utopia

Yes - I was really ill - I didn't realise how bad - I just thought I was becoming extra lazy - not to be tolerated here - almost a relief to know there was something physical wrong

It's so much more socially acceptable

And women get it all - and some men think we are inferior - what I read in a book about the Hunter/Gatherers - "Men walk back from hunting accidents with terrible pain from serious injuries - but listen to the women cry out when they are in labour"

Luckily not all men are like that - we women are tough in a different way - tough inside - and one reason we are usually smaller and do not have all that muscle is because we are not meant to do the heavy work -

But we want to be equal - another one of those tough issues

I should just say thanks for the best wishes - and I have been feeling better today - and although I have felt shaken up this afternoon - I have done all sorts of things around the house - winter might wear off yet

Decadian