Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[Shaz51]

Hi @Former-Member, same here

Hope you have a nice weekend , it is sunny up here again today

not sure what is happening tomorrow , have to wait and see

[Appleblossom]

Hello @Maz

How are you going?  Have you found any support?

[Shaz51]

Hello @Appleblossom , how are you today , thank you for your messages , means so much to me

Hi @Maz, @Former-Member, @NikNik

[Tasha13]

Hi Maz,
What an exhausting situation you have. Mine seems to pale in comparission.
You sound like you have spent many years doing a stirling job. 

I think that you too need respite. Are you getting some sort of carers payment from the government.

Its none of our business of course but you may be able to get some support services for yourself.
I found that as a career I could get some hours a week cleaning and respite.  It really made all the difference to have that little bit of time for me.

Also, I spoke to my doctor and in the end went on anti-depressants myself.  Its a long hard road and there is no failure in asking for help and admitting that sometimes it's just all too much for one woman (no matter how capable you are) to do.  

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[Shaz51]

Hi @Maz, how are you  today ??

[Maz]

I'm continually amazed at how some people can cope so well in adversity. They seem to have this inner strength that I wish I had. Wish I knew how to become stronger to handle this eternal caring role for my family - one with autism and 2 with depression. How do some people get thrown a bad situation and just run with it and talk about it with such self control and accept it without question. How do I become more resilient? Wish I had the answer

[Shaz51]

Hello @Maz,

A lot of people - it is just a show , what are they like behind closed doors ??

we don`t know what they are like when they are alone

We just have to be ourselves -- take one day at a time @Maz

you are doing a great job , be postive and we the forum are here for you

[Appleblossom]

Hello @Maz

Dont compare yourself to others. @Shaz51 is right. There is a lot of boasting, drama queening and grandstanding out in the real world .. unfortunately.

You know when your tank is empty or you need a friendly smile, or understanding word. Believe that you are worth it and try and find supports.

Have you heard of AMAZE .. are they any help?

Take care

Apple