Relief from suffering

[Former-Member]

Hi happyness - so much to think about in all of your posts - feels like you're feeling a need to reach out and connect on a deeper level? I'm not entirely sure that love can be explained or understood - maybe it's something that just 'is'. And it's different for different people and each relationship we have.
I believe we can change our brains and its 'wiring' by continuing to seek new experiences and learning. We can reframe our ideas and beliefs or healing would never be possible - I have had to challenge so much of what I believed to be true about the world from how I grew up.. I also have seen how a little girl who had a stroke that damaged one side of her brain be able to recover almost completely in all ways over about a year.
Ps I don't think your posts were too much.
Lj

[PeppiPatty]

hi @Former-Member

i've been thinking about you.
could you give your two childrem a secret cuddle from me ...
cuddle to you love Anne x

[Former-Member]

Thanks @PeppiPatty I think you need a hug too 🙂 xx

[Appleblossom]

@Happyness For the last 15 years my home life has not actually been overly challenging ... apart from the usual paying of bills, cleaning, shopping, running household etc. ie., it is always WORK.  It is easier to run a family and household by oneself than with an unco-operative and destabilising partner.

What has been challenging has been managing my feelings, and getting my son to leave the home, in little appropriate bits, for his own development.

I used to be so triggered by the word "home" that I did not like it when they started to introduce "home pages" on internet sites.

Selection and choice are interesting concepts, but the playing field arounf them is NOT equal.

Glad to hear from you anyway.

[Happyness]

Hi

How are you

[Former-Member]

Hi there @Happyness

Thread is back up and going for you 🙂

Lunar

[BlueBay]

Hi @Former-Member

Why doesn't my psychologist understand the reasons for my wanting to SH.? She dismisses it really quickly by saying 'oh no that's not the way to cope'.

why doesn't she help me deal with it.

[Former-Member]

Hi @BlueBay

Good question! Do you think you could ask them both questions directly? That might make for an interesting and productive session. Perhaps they themselves do no not feel that comfortable talking about it, or don't want to try and understand why you would do it. But if that's the case, and you want to work on it (which it sounds like you do), then it may be really productive to try and have an open conversation with them about it. Therapy is your time after all, and if it's a goal of yours to reduce SH, then your therapist should be open to helping you with that, or referring you to someone who can if its outside their area of expertise.

supernova. 

[BlueBay]

Can't ask. Too scared. She is so different to my old therapist.

[Happyness]

haven't done a post with this thread for two years

i hope it's appropriate, because i was more crazy back then

but that's the whole reason for these forums anyway

i find accepting the quiet time a form of relief from suffering

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accepting the quiet time as a form of relief from suffering

accepting the quiet time

accepting the quiet time