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29 Aug 2024 07:37 PM
29 Aug 2024 07:37 PM
Withdrawal from studies.
I have just been working on my exceptional circumstances form for withdrawing from TAFE.
I feel sad and down, and I feel ashamed.
I had so much hope riding on tafe, now it's gone. I feel like a failure.
I know I didn't ask to get pneumonia, I know being sick is out of my control. But..it hurts. I feel like I let myself and everyone else down.
How do I put it all into perspective and not get masochistic and self sabatage over this.
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29 Aug 2024 08:05 PM
29 Aug 2024 08:05 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
Hard sometimes to convince our emotional brains of the things our logical brains already know, hey @The-red-centaur. Hmmm.... if it were me, I think I would try to allow myself to feel those emotions. Let myself be angry that I didn't achieve my goal, angry that sickness got in the way; but also to try to direct the anger outward, not at myself. It sounds like you're finding it hard not to blame yourself, or at least to not feel like you've let yourself down. I imagine these feelings will pass, especially if you're planning on re-applying to go back next year or something?
And don't forget that you still did have those experiences of learning, so it definitely wasn't a waste of time or anything. It is still a loss, so please remember it is okay to grieve.
I'm sorry it turned out this way hun. Sending you hugs 💜🫂🫂
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29 Aug 2024 08:19 PM
29 Aug 2024 08:19 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
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29 Aug 2024 08:58 PM
29 Aug 2024 08:58 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
Hi @The-red-centaur.
It's okay to feel sad and down about it, but don't feel ashamed or like you're a failure... I think you know that's not even close to true. I was diagnosed with my own serious health problems a couple of years ago, it can change your plans in an instant, but for me it opened up new options as well. Things I find really fulfilling now that I would have never even thought of before.
That's not to say you can't go back to getting your Cert IV at a later time, unless there's is some reason i'm not aware of. Life does tend to throw these curveballs at us. Someone once told me, we would never learn anything if everything always worked out exactly how we wanted it. So focus what you can do for now, and maybe different opportunities will come along for you and your artistic talent. Brainstorm new ways to get your work seen by more eyes and you never know what that may lead to as far as making a living out of it. Maybe there's some books or youtube videos or resources like that that can give you some ideas. Is there a facebook group for artists you could join and get some ideas from?
I know it can be hard sometimes when we're at such low points in life to see the possibilities, but we only stop finding them when we stop looking. You clearly have the talent, so keep with it.
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29 Aug 2024 09:25 PM
29 Aug 2024 09:25 PM
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29 Aug 2024 09:49 PM
29 Aug 2024 09:49 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
@transmigration , Welcome to the forums. Thank you for sharing that in depth post. It was very helpful to read.
Much appreciated.
We look forward to seeing you around.
@The-red-centaur, you are certainly not alone in needed adjustments to be made for your learning. I hoe you will be able to reach out to get the support you need at this time, whilst also focusing on your mental and physical health. I know how much you wanted to do this course.
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02 Sep 2024 04:06 PM
02 Sep 2024 04:06 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
My withdrawal has been finalised and im sad.
But thanks everyone.
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02 Sep 2024 04:19 PM
02 Sep 2024 04:19 PM
Re: Withdrawal from studies.
That's hard @The-red-centaur I'm sorry that it worked out this way for you
I can relate to those feelings that come up when not being able to complete a course. I've also been in a situation where something out of my control has forced me to withdraw from a course I really wanted to do. It sucks and it's okay to be sad right now, but I hope that it helps to know that you're not alone in this, and I hope that you're able to give it another crack next year.
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