Not Coping

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 thanks princess ❤️

I'm going to go water my plants, my lemon tree looks like it's crying for water!

I'll be back after your call most likely 👑

[Former-Member]

no worries, here for you @ENKELI  🙂 xx

Yeah, I do know how physical pain can be quite a bit easier / more straightforward to deal with than emotional pain..I wish none of us had to face that, however we are in this together, which is what makes a lot of difference, I tend to think 🙂🤗💜

Im really sorry to hear youre feeling out of sorts emotionally, and it does make sense that significant dates on the horizon could well be contributing to that 💜

Do you have any specific things you do to brace yourself/coping strategies?

Please feel free to respond with what makes you comfortable 🙂

Holding space for you dear ENKELI 💜🌺

[Birdofparadise8]

Yeah, I need a job to pay for everything: rent, food, etc. 

I lost my job last year. @Former-Member 

Okay you must have a lot if it takes an hour lol @ENKELI 

[Former-Member]

Im really sorry to hear that @Birdofparadise8 💜

I hope this really goes well and you get the job 🙂 

Its nice your parents are helpful, thats lovely 🙂 xx

Please do let us know how you go, wont you? 

I have some videos on interviewing that I like, they have tips on answering and asking questions, if you'd like me to share them? 🙂

[Birdofparadise8]

I know I lost it in September, and I've been applying for jobs since. 

I have had a few interviews, and one was so close. 

Yes, well, my savings are in a term deposit. 

Yeah, that would be good, thank you. 

I do feel pretty confident in my interview skills when the last one I was deemed appointable. 

But I will be always open to learning more skills. @Former-Member 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 lol I forgot the clocks had turned back and your call is at 5 my time. It will take me a few days to get that sorted in my head

How are you feeling about the call?

[Birdofparadise8]

Hahah that's okay @ENKELI 

I like it. I get to wake up at 7:30 now. 

Eh, not sure. It will be good, I suppose. But it's not like it 's going to solve how I'm feeling at the moment. 

The lady I speak to at KHL is in Brisbane, so it's good the times are back to the same now. 

I wish I were feeling okay right now. Why is depression so hard? So mean to me? It makes me hate myself and want to, you know. 

[ENKELI]

@Former-Member thanks sweetie. 

This is new to me in this instance. I spent 10 years financially and emotionally supporting a friend who had split from her husband. I became Godmother to her kids and 8 years ago moved in with her to fully support her and the kids. Last year was a year I'd like to forget but can't. She first told me she didn't want to live with me anymore and my God daughter was the reason - she was 15 at the time and I'd spent close on 10 grand on this child only to be lied to, stolen from and told to f*ck off. My friend sided with her daughter so I moved back to my own house. In April last year just after her birthday my friend cut all ties with me including blocking me from my God son, daughter, and her family with whom I'd grown close. Her mother treated me like another daughter. I was left without any reason why she cut off contact and when I did try to contact her she used her ex husbands girlfriend (who she dislikes) to reply on her behalf. I deleted what was written as it left me shaking and in full anxiety.

Even as I'm writing this I know I'll need to take anti anxiety meds. I've also been told that I talk about it too much so I have been internalising and nobody knows that I feel like going to sleep etc. You can guess the rest.

I'll be okay and am safe but right now I feel as if my heart has been torn from my chest, along with this blasted sinus headache. 

Sorry to offload, I have a tendency to talk too much as @Birdofparadise8 well knows!

[Former-Member]

thats a bit of a difficult time to lose a job @Birdofparadise8 .. being close to Christmas and the new year, I find that period of time a bit unpredictable regarding job availability and hiring.. accentuated by the recent pandemic, too, I would think xx

Ah, I do understand.. the term deposits are great, besides the day its kind of needed .. 🙂 💜

Thats great you have gotten very close to pinning the job! 😀 I hope this time its even better and you get it.... 

Ok, here's the little vids, some may not be relevant, and some hopefully can be helpful... I actually found some handy stuff from them I will use myself in future 🙂

Feel free to let me know what you think anytime..

https://youtu.be/08z1qmazhTk 

https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/is-this-job-right-for-me#:~:text=To%20determine%2... 

https://www.fairwork.gov.au/employment-conditions/contracts 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6kgZEWufmc  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDFgGi-lrD0 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDFgGi-lrD0&t=1s  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLzvqRyMY4k  

https://www.thehealthyjournal.com/faq/should-you-mention-your-mental-health-in-an-interview  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KDoC7HVjMHo  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQwU9Sz3aQE 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igSbCFqrE6Q 

https://youtu.be/f7lmYinVSLw  

https://www.legislation.gov.au/Details/C2016C00763

https://youtu.be/HlrXGF2e-60  

https://youtu.be/Vn9_gDGNnRE  

some of these are related to having a job, however for the ease of finding them all in one post, I included them here if you'd like to add to favourites 🙂 

And adding a tag for our @ENKELI 🙂🌺💜

[Birdofparadise8]

Thank you @Former-Member 

I'll have a look and let you know.