03-02-2025 07:31 PM
03-02-2025 07:31 PM
@Jynx I got myself the sweet and spicy Korean fried chicken, along with the kimchi dumplings! 😋 also, just finished my second Korean class just 7 mins ago! WOOO
btw, just a question I thought I'd ask for fun just out of curiosity (but also cause im excited about looking to do an undergraduate degree lol) -- but have you ever done a bachelors course before? if yes, how did you find it, and what did you study (if you're comfortable telling me it)? 🙂
04-02-2025 02:25 PM
04-02-2025 02:25 PM
yeah, about the lady I spoke to at orange door, one of the things she said that in my head made me go like "huh?! 🤨🤨" was when I was telling her about the reason why I don't wanna consider on going to the legal route (like the police potentially arresting my mum as a result if I were to report her to them) because my sister who has a low functioning disability would then otherwise wouldn't be able to be very well looked after and taken care of if my mother's no longer present in the home to be able to fully take care of her then, and then she (the lady at orange door) goes like "aww, you must really love your sister 🥰" and then I was like "um...actually no, I don't." and then I told her that my sister and I's relationship is very much non-existent and all that and then she goes like "but you care about her. you care about your mum too. and you're also very kind. 🥰" like ok???? miss ma'am clearly doesn't even know what my relationship with my family members are actually like but yet she says that I "care" about them and "love" my sister, just because I dont want them to be put into such situations that involve consequences?? 😂😂😂
ahh ok, I've looked onto the website but I can't seem to find anything regarding an additional fee for an interpreter. Were you able to find out what the cost of the actual fee for that was?
And Youth Law Australia just got back to me again via email today and I'll be speaking to one of their lawyers over the phone soon probably this week. I'm so happy I was able to provide a lot more information to them through email last week about what has been happening.
yeah, I understand about sharing similar cultures and language with one another, and the thing is I've never wanted to associate myself with my heritage (including NEVER speak the language as well as NEVER speaking to any of our extended family that only speak that language, yes that includes my grandma and aunty) and I still don't wish to till this day - but for some reason my mum wanted me to in some way? I'd rather be part of a different cultural heritage than the one I was biologically assigned to because what even is this kind of traditional culture?? for your second point, I feel like my mum especially is also connected to the Chinese heritage since we also have a Chinese background - but it's just that the majority of our heritage is Cambodian, whereas part of the other in our background is Chinese. Yeah I can understand the third part, but then again, what we choose to do for ourselves is our life, right?
I mean, as much as I'd like to be with a guy whose Cambodian but most importantly, he has to be someone who is like 1-2 or 3 years older than me, and someone that was born and raised either here in Australia, or in any other multicultural English dominated foreign countries like America/Canada/New Zealand, cause then that would mean that at least him and I would share the same values and perspectives on certain things. I would appreciate it if isn't the one to invalidate my struggles and feelings though - I think that should be the no.1 important thing for all relationships - to prioritise mental health and make others feel validated and heard.
oh no, don't ever feel sorry for rambling! please ramble when you can since I'm willing to read it all (I'm being serious) especially when its related to something I'm going through especially - I like it when peoples replies are long and lengthy and not just posts that are either in some short sentences or in some short paragraphs if that makes sense. 🙂
Today I've been doing good - I went to the gym first thing in the morning and then after that I went outside and stayed inside the shopping mall for a few hours until the early afternoon even though today is another 35-37 degrees celsius day... but I was able to take a shower after I came back. 🙂
how are you?
04-02-2025 03:58 PM
04-02-2025 03:58 PM
@Blackcloud wrote:
btw, just a question I thought I'd ask for fun just out of curiosity (but also cause im excited about looking to do an undergraduate degree lol) -- but have you ever done a bachelors course before? if yes, how did you find it, and what did you study (if you're comfortable telling me it)? 🙂
Yepper, I did a Bachelor of Counselling!! I really enjoyed it, was amazing doing all the prac and learning all the theories and stuff. What are you thinking about studying? Oooh how exciting!
04-02-2025 04:13 PM - edited 04-02-2025 04:16 PM
04-02-2025 04:13 PM - edited 04-02-2025 04:16 PM
@Jynx oh that’s great!! And gosh, a bachelor course is something I’m really wanting to get into - I was considering on wanting to get into a double degree of I.T and Arts (major in sociology) since the uni that I wanna go into unfortunately doesn’t have psychology in the arts major (god dammit) and it’s kinda sad considering how passionate I am with wanting to have general knowledge about all the psychology related stuff, given that I even have lived experience too. But with sociology, I guess I can also apply my lived experience to that as well considering that I’m passionate in learning about certain/relevant topics that has to do with society in general.
but now I just need to finish off with this cert 4 course in order for me to apply for that course, as I need to be completing any TAFE course to be able to apply.
04-02-2025 04:23 PM
04-02-2025 04:23 PM
@Blackcloud ach it's so hard to choose isn't it!! Especially if you're like me, and passionate about a lot of different things!!
04-02-2025 04:25 PM
04-02-2025 04:25 PM
@Jynx yes that’s true haha
when you did bachelor of psychology, did you ever had to work in groups and do any group projects? As well as writing any thesis’s? 😮
04-02-2025 04:30 PM
04-02-2025 04:30 PM
@Blackcloud I didn't do B psych I did B counselling! They're a bit different, psych includes everything from stats and research to anatomy and neuroscience, as well as the clinical stuff. My counsellling degree was purely focused on the counselling part - so like yeah we learned the same theories and stuff, but it also included a lot more of a focus on the clinical/therapy side of things and like, we did heaps of counselling prac and stuff. Whether one ought to head into counselling or psychology would depend entirely on what sort of work they are wanting to do.
Group projects were featured yes! Not that many though, but LOTS when I did my Groups subject. No thesis writing but lots of essays!
04-02-2025 04:38 PM
04-02-2025 04:38 PM
@Jynx ohhh my bad! But that’s cool on what you guys did in the bachelor of counselling course 🙂
yeah cause I know with bachelor of psychology, the people I know who did this bachelor did mention about writing a thesis and I can imagine how dreadful having to write a thesis must have been. And yea I know that with group projects, for me they’re the worst 😅🥲
04-02-2025 04:51 PM
04-02-2025 04:51 PM
@Blackcloud yeah tell ya what it can be gruelling, I never wrote a thesis but I did have to do a research report - mine ended up being soooo far over the word count which was unexpected as! It comes down to whether or not you're interested in the topic 😉 And you get heaps of support for writing it too.
04-02-2025 05:27 PM
04-02-2025 05:27 PM
@Blackcloud okay so don't hate me... but i SORT of agree with lady you spoke to. i say sort of because love vs care are 2 diff things. like you can care about someone without 'love' for them... like how i care if an innocent stranger gets attacked - i don't necessarily love or even know them but i care, and i'd want to help the innocent person out! it seems like you care about your mum and sister (which is a normal thing! even i care about all of you!) since you are worried about your sister not receiving support from your mum, right? but yeah i can't say anything about the love part though.
family relationships can be complicated... i reckon it's super hard not to care about your family... if we didn't care at all then we'd never feel hurt by their words right? gosh caring has so many meanings!
about the fee - i think you'd have to contact Relationships Australia directly and ask them if an interpreter for the language you want is available, and see how much they charge.
good to hear about Youth Law Australia being super helpful!!
yeah, I understand about sharing similar cultures and language with one another, and the thing is I've never wanted to associate myself with my heritage (including NEVER speak the language as well as NEVER speaking to any of our extended family that only speak that language, yes that includes my grandma and aunty) and I still don't wish to till this day - but for some reason my mum wanted me to in some way? I'd rather be part of a different cultural heritage than the one I was biologically assigned to because what even is this kind of traditional culture?? for your second point, I feel like my mum especially is also connected to the Chinese heritage since we also have a Chinese background - but it's just that the majority of our heritage is Cambodian, whereas part of the other in our background is Chinese. Yeah I can understand the third part, but then again, what we choose to do for ourselves is our life, right?
I mean, as much as I'd like to be with a guy whose Cambodian but most importantly, he has to be someone who is like 1-2 or 3 years older than me, and someone that was born and raised either here in Australia, or in any other multicultural English dominated foreign countries like America/Canada/New Zealand, cause then that would mean that at least him and I would share the same values and perspectives on certain things. I would appreciate it if isn't the one to invalidate my struggles and feelings though - I think that should be the no.1 important thing for all relationships - to prioritise mental health and make others feel validated and heard.
the criteria you mentioned makes a lot of sense and sounds pretty fair. definitely agree that prioritising mental health, having similar views/perspectives and feeling heard/validated is super important!! culture does make things complex... but yeah i'm with you about it being YOUR life so when you marry someone, you gotta do it for YOU and no one else. do you reckon living in Aus helps in being able to pick and choose what traditions/cultural believes you follow or don't follow?
aww yay, will continue to ramble away!! oh woah sounds like a productive morning! what'd you shop around for? yeah it's 35+ degrees for me too... too humid!! but it's slowly starting to cool down for me, just super windy atm. i'm good, i'm going to Bali tomorrow so just been dealing with some last min prep stuff this week. still got some packing to get done tonight. it doesn't even feel like i'm going tomorrow haha, the pre-travel-stress hasn't hit me yet.
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