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17 Sep 2017 01:37 AM
17 Sep 2017 01:37 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
Its freedom of choice. Nobody can be forced into doing or taking any treatment or idea if he refuses. We can only try our best and not going too hard on ourselves either. Two more newborns in the family also with heart issues.. backflow. One just had surgery.. another is scheduled sometime soon. So @Former-Member.. this is life and its cycles. We just get by and try our best..hoping after hardship will come ease. Despite that gloomy reply u managed to make me gigle though😂
Take care.
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17 Sep 2017 02:22 PM
17 Sep 2017 02:22 PM
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17 Sep 2017 09:11 PM
17 Sep 2017 09:11 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
thanks for reply @Adek
afternoon out in sun with friend yesterday I enjoyed....lovely to see her enjoying release so much as well
took mum down to watch ocean this afternoon...she doesnt like getting out of car but we watch waves and all people walking past.....one man with dog came over and talked to us ....dog wanted a pat...beautiful boxer
a busy day out was good....not feeling so gloomy now just distracting myself
walking is about connecting with nature for me and all animals etc in area...these days called mindfulness...in my mind just something I have always done laugh
what did you do over the weekend?
I have read the religious side of your life what else do you get up to in your free time?
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18 Sep 2017 12:07 AM
18 Sep 2017 12:07 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
In my faith...after 40 is the crucial time for reflection, spiritual development, charity, religious activities and the like. So i am spending most of my time for that now be it with myself...family...charity groups or doing my parttime job. This weekend i was scheduled for a 2 days seminar outstation but i was down with mense cramps i cancelled my registration and enjoyed my me-time when i'm up to it.. reading and had a couple of online classes, lunch with son.
Tomorrow and the whole wk will be really busy..2 hospital appointments, 3 alternate nights driving outstation for classes, visiting mom, visiting 2 scholars, some charity work and the list continues til month end. What did you do before u retired? Being a teacher i am knowledge oriented..so u see..retired or not am always hooked up with classes and loving it 😁
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18 Sep 2017 01:04 AM
18 Sep 2017 01:04 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
Since i was busy learning and teaching biology before 40..spending time on fieldwork getting to know human system, plants and animals and their life cycles, anatomy, physiology etc, i have a lot to catch up on my own 'way of life aspect' now..getting to know myself, history and purpose of my being in life. Perhaps...if i had learnt it earlier during my teenage years like my younger brother and sister did...life would have been different for me.
So if u ask something else i do besides the religious side of my life...actually now i am learning LIFE itself. Hope..i answered your question.
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18 Sep 2017 05:29 AM
18 Sep 2017 05:29 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
What is best for me? I want to reach my full potential and do well for myself. Live a good life and be happy, healthy, content. And feel satisfied and complete. Have meaning and purpose. Have everything i need and want. Be a good person. And so on. Be goal driven and achieve the goals i am setting for myself. Be in control of my thoughts, emotions and actions so it points me in the direction i am wanting to go.
I would love to say everything is fine and dandy. But it is just not so. I drink coffee. I smoke cigarettes. I drink alcohol. I use drugs from time to time. I am constantly medicated and they all go hand in hand. And i have many other bad habits that i am only just getting on top of. (All the usual stuff ) relationship problems. Bitterness. Anger. Resentment. Jealously. Covetousness. Social anxiety.
Does it all sound like typical stuff?
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18 Sep 2017 09:00 AM - edited 18 Sep 2017 09:43 AM
18 Sep 2017 09:00 AM - edited 18 Sep 2017 09:43 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
That sounded like the heavy stuff shared by our brother from US @eudemonism. He too..at one point in time was struck by shame, guilt, remorse but sought solace, repentance, new mindset and meaning in life from reflecting, reading, learning, being knowledgeable and mixing with the right people, positive people that uplift his virtues and spirits. Its like shutting down some doors for good, and entering new doors that lead to different worlds that have never been explored. An emigration in the cause of his Creator. Done that too..in order to move forward...
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18 Sep 2017 11:57 AM
18 Sep 2017 11:57 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
bcc stands for basal cell carcinoma....non melanoma cancer....I have a pearly coloured spot that has changed....have moles so have seen skin specialists before....it will probably be removed...is on my face...
I flapped internally....(programmed learning of keeping my feelings inward since a child)..reacted as close friend has melanoma cancer on the brain....melanomas have been removed from his face....he has had treatment ...not doing to well at the moment
your life certainly has been interesting....do you give presentations about determination, stamina,perseverance?
Written an autobiography?
my life pales intensely in comparison......through no fault of your own I feel even more that my life has been wasted and feel so angry with the depression etc.
I realise that this sort of reaction...whilst I need to acknowledge that it is real and a part of me....I want to change my thinking...a perfect opportunity to work on ....living in the now!
thank you Adek ...as I have said to you before you are an inspiration.
@eudemonism your last post was a clear, articulate piece of writing covering major aspects of your life that have affected your mental health, lifestyle and relationships.
I thought that Adek's response matched your internal questioning of self well.
I hope that you don't feel that I am diverting the subject away from you.
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18 Sep 2017 01:28 PM
18 Sep 2017 01:28 PM
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