Coming to terms with reality

[Adek]

[eudemonism]

Hi all, I'm doing reasonably well... especially when i take my stress levels into consideration. I'm reading everything that is written. And don't really have my own opinon about any of it. Sorry.

I've been realising what types of thoughts get on my nerves. And where they have stemmed from in my life. Whether earlier life. Current and ongoing circumstances. Or future predicaments. And it does indeed bind and wind me up. And i just have to let go of everything as best i can. Or i get real wild with everyone and everything involved with the situation. That i seem to be in the centre of. And i will admit... alot of it is, only my thoughts causing the stress. And it is for good reasons. But essentially can't do much about any of the causing factors.

I won't go into the feelings I'm getting from all of it. Because I'll end up feeling very irate. It's prominently based around doing well in life. Reasons why my life has ended up like it has. Dealing with negative feelings. Resenting being stuck in this position. With basically nothing i can do about it. And having no real sources of proper help to achieve what I'm really wanting to do with my life.

Sorry for not answering the questions.

[Adek]

Sometime...

somewhere...

along our journey towards eternity...

what we really need is...

a paradigm shift.

Have a nice weekend my friends...🍃☘🐝

[Appleblossom]

Frankly, I engaged with PMT and BiPolar presentations 40 years ago so no need to check link.

30 years ago I did studies and stats in govt funded issues for Malay, Indian and Chinese in Malaysia in my first degree.  I was open interested and nonjudgemental, but I remember the findings were very preferential.

Leaving a semi trailer unmanned at a busy intersection to run and do a family errand?? is an erratic and irresponsible and dangerous thing to do.

I did not take his number plate and report him.  Should I start doing that sort of thing .. nah ... never been a dobber. Too busy anyway. I did not run over him though I had right of way. I was cautious as something was awry.  I also had a head full of worry as my son is in crisis and I was doing errnads for him but still managed to avert this random truckie's crisis.  I am too good at de-escalating.

Frankly, "frankly" is very patronising. @Adek 

I was also told that day by an Indian lady at a shop that there is no trauma in Australia.  She was complaining about her sinuses and I was not in the mood to sympathise. So I asked her how she would feel if she had a father and 3 siblings prematurely dead. She was shocked.  In the interests of different cultures getting along, there does need to be some recognition of some first world experiences of trauma.  Failure to even try to understand will not help cultural integration or the rise of fascism in western countries.  Do you wnat to contribute to the solution or the problem?

Being patronising is not helpful.

[Former-Member]

hello @Appleblossom @Adek

I read the posts and I think that there was no intention of being patronising or disrespectful.

I think that it is another case of misunderstanding via the written word

this has happened to me several times and I have felt dreadful.

I read the article and found the content interesting. I suffered from extreme pms as well as pain lasting longer than the usual 5 days. I was diagnosed with endometriosis after having  an operation for what the specialist thought was a tumour.

I was always aware how my moods were affected but male doctors didnt have any suggestions only antidepressants. Mine has always been major depression and later anxiety from trauma. I am not bipolar.

Regardless of the article @Adek I feel for you if you are struggling with your cycle monthly. I took strong pain killers that knocked me out so that I could sleep through the worst times. Had time off work each month.....not ideal at all. I hope that there are better solutions out there these days.

How is your son @Appleblossom..very worrying for you .....I hope that he is able to talk to you about how he feels.

take care

[Former-Member]

hello @eudemonism

no need to feel that you need to answer questions if you dont want to

this is all about posting how we feel, responding to others only if we feel up to it

for me it helps to be able to communicate with others who have their own struggles

I am no super woman I just hope that sometimes I am able to help others feel a little better for being acknowledged and heard

take care

[Appleblossom]

Glad you can relate to the PMS stuff. @Former-Member

"Frankly" 2-3 times with "he he" added

is judgemental and presumptuous .. laughing at people in pain without having the decency to figure out what is going on is cruel.. especially when a welcome is offered. 

I did not note it and just let it go ... in the interests of cultural inclusion and overlooking little misunderstandings ... til this time.

I am tired of people getting off the hook when they have a go at me. Or the insults being minimised.by well meaning but partly informed interferers.  That is how mental illness dx often start.

Yes indeed I am most concerned about my son, but  @Adek might like to work on her attitude with me regardless.

She has now created a bigger problem as I feel  our online friendship is compromised @Former-Member.

[Appleblossom]

Sorry this happened on your thread @eudemonism

I will withdraw  from conversations on this thread but wish you the best and might bump into you around the forum.

I am tired of doing the United Nations thing as @lisajane once referred to it, while my family suffer.

It can be little digs like this that have signifcant impact on race relations. 

Preaching any religion with or without science do not compassion make.

[Adek]

Been quite a few times it seems u are offended by me. That was really uncalled for. I am frank..because that was all. I don't even understand what u meant by patronising. i don't need to be presumptuos thats why i said i missed your point even after reading the post over and over again.

So sorry if i sounded dumb or stupid

[Adek]

That hehe...was meant for me...cuz i don't understand whats been posted. Last time i laughed too when eudemonism posted...and again..i was laughing at myself. As much as we want people to read our minds..not all people are capable of doing so... especially me. I can't read yours @Appleblossom..thats why i cant understand what you want to convey in that post. I also didn't understand when you say your family is mad but others have job.

Since i can't understand your mind...i don't blame u as well for misunderstanding my statements either. Owh...this is really giving me bodyaches. . Gotta go. Pls don't summon me anyone... Pls don't tag me.

@eudemonism@Former-Member