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09 Aug 2017 07:42 PM
09 Aug 2017 07:42 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
I have the right fleeting thoughts in my mind each day. In particular in the mornings. I just get distracted and skip too. "Im mentally ill " "reach out for help mode " "thanks to the system "
I listen to music from time too time. And i do a rendition of my own thoughts and words against it. In a rivaling and challenging type of way. Paraphrase the lyrics kind of thing... Like most things in life.
And yeah, stuck in the mind is no good place for anyone to be...... better of taking useful and positive action...... if I had acted on every positive and life giving thought i have had in the last few days, i could be feeling like the king of achievements right now! I would of been walking, mopped the floors, cleaned the windows, cleaned the cupboards, cleaned the desk, cleaned the linen, done the gardening, visited friends and family, donated stuff to charity, minimized, simplified, etc etc. And so on! (But instead i slip into mentally ill mode. Need help mode. Am Medicated and going through terrible side effects mode 24/7 365 "its an angry cycle ")
My dog is kelpie x collie he's great. He keeps me busy and occupied. He's well behaved for most of the time. He does chew things though. The fruit trees for example.
I think i need to prepare for these days and prepare for the storm. And have plans in place to help me get through. Stuff like prayer, meditation, relaxation techniques, books to read, friends to rely on and friends to help, etc.
You can change a few key words of my message and turn it into advice if you want which is what i should do for myself.
I'll YouTube those names
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09 Aug 2017 10:23 PM
09 Aug 2017 10:23 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
hello @eudemonism
nice to hear from you
having to battle side effects of medication is alarming as well as draining.
I am not surprised in the least that you don't get things done that you want to
This happens to me, I get sidetracked with my anxiety or depression nothing gets done then
I take so long to get things done on some days when I am not well
I just look at it differently if it doesn't get done and it is not life threatening so be it
I have been feeling better and slowly getting out
you might have very high expectations about housework which does not need to be done daily. Having animals does also create more work though
I have 2 cats who malt fur heavily
LIfe would not be the same without animals..great that you have your dog. I am more than sure that he gives you great comfort
losing your uncle recently would have a huge impact on you
you could light a candle for him if that would help
there are a few different threads on here about grief and loss if you wanted to try and connect with others as well
Try not to be too hard on yourself when the day does not pan out as planned
you are having to deal with a lot...feel for eudemonism
I like the idea of putting your own thoughts and words to music. Does that help you?
well time for sleep hopefully
write back when you can ..no pressure..no judgements..just friendship
be nice to yourself is a new mission for you
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10 Aug 2017 10:51 AM
10 Aug 2017 10:51 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
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10 Aug 2017 11:12 AM
10 Aug 2017 11:12 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
Need vs Greed
Plight vs Fight
Retreat vs Retrench
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10 Aug 2017 12:12 PM
10 Aug 2017 12:12 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
For me its a case of my egoideal side verse my idealistic side Hahaha its kind of laughable.
When in actual fact all i have is my realistic side to rely on when it comes to the crunch.
All these big words have a positive and negative prospective they use on me. It gets messy.
What hurts most is too think i am the only one dealing with such a predicament. But when i realize i am not. I take it a little easier on myself.
And just go with the flow as best i can...
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11 Aug 2017 11:10 AM
11 Aug 2017 11:10 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
hello @eudemonism
I do agree with the offer of an illusion of heaven....it is exactly that an illusion
being aware of that and choosing to not measure yourself against such ridiculous ideals is a healthy way..in my mind...of living one's life
living and functioning in society does not have to be a negative experience... if we can keep on believing in ourselves...that we are strong...we can find contentment in different ways for each of us who are different to each other
all sounds a bit hippyesh I know...it is this thought that keeps me going
I believe that when I am true to myself and am able to have moments of wonder no matter how small, that life is worthwhile....
I think that you show great insight @eudemonism when you write that
What hurts most is too think i am the only one dealing with such a predicament. But when i realize i am not. I take it a little easier on myself.
I spent four hours gardening yesterday, weeding actually..resulting in stiffness ...felt good though
I find connecting with nature, playing in the dirt so to speak which is what gardening stems from for me, helps me feel calmer, more at peace with myself...similar to being on sand at the beach
@Adek how are you today? would you like to share some of your interests?
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11 Aug 2017 12:41 PM
11 Aug 2017 12:41 PM
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11 Aug 2017 05:34 PM
11 Aug 2017 05:34 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
oh my goodness!!
when do you have time to breathe
I need some of your energy please.
my traumas and depression have drained just about all of my energy and slowed me down so much.
I have to push myself so hard to get out and go for a walk yet I love walking so much. Took about 4 hours today eventually went as it started to rain. just put a jacket on and hood up. glad that I went because rain stopped. came home and gardened again for about 2 hours.
You certainly have done some interesting things in your life and I hope very much that you are proud of yourself. Your interests are so unselfish and yes you do have a wealth of knowledge.
You must tell me more about your rabbit rearing if you feel up to it. I had a pet rabbit at the age of about 13 and he was stolen. I was devastated.
I think that you are an ambassador for what can be achieved when retiring due to ill health
seriously you have woken me up...I would love to talk more with you
@eudemonism there is hope for change....read how interesting adek is
speak soon to both of you I hope
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11 Aug 2017 06:02 PM
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11 Aug 2017 07:50 PM
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