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17-10-2016 12:49 AM
17-10-2016 12:49 AM
Anxiety panic disorder is not a holiday from work
Arrrrggh. I got asked the question again..."oh are you still of work? Enjoying your holiday" followed by the look. Do others experience this?
I am of work at the moment after having a breakdown at work..it's been three months and people, friends even seem to think I am on some magical holiday!! Yes having panic attacks is great!! I can't go anywhere work without an attack. I am yo scared to answer the phone or knocks at the door. I gave panic attacks in bunnings or the mall. I need new clothes but can't go shopping. I lay awake at night unable to sleep cause I think someone is outside trying to get me or my meds have me all hyped up....yes it's a magical wonderful holiday one where I just wish I was better so I could back to work.
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17-10-2016 05:11 AM
17-10-2016 05:11 AM
Re: Anxiety panic disorder is not a holiday from work
Yes I have received those same comments and more. Overworked, understaffed for years & then an incident with a client & it was like I'd been broken. Work didn't understand (& I worked in the Mental Health Sector).
"Are you still not working". "Why haven't you gone back" & the one I love the most - "but your not sick, I saw you yesterday at the shops and you were smiling".
Peoples lack of understanding on MI (Mental Illness), is still poor. Dome still think depression is when you are sad. And having a pacic attack in the middle of the street, must mean you're 'crazy'
Stigma is alive and well. However, how ee react to stigma or ignorance, is up to us.
My psychiatrist explained my injury - as being kicked in the head - over and over again - until my brain was so bruised - I was barely coping. And really, that's what it felt like.
I've been on WorkCover for just over 2 years, & am finally feeling so much better. My PTSD was treated successfully by EMDR. I haven't had a panic attack since Feb/March this year. Through my pdychologist I have learnt coping techniques & am almost ready to re-enter the Workforce.
This 'holiday'of mine, has been exhausting, terrifying and confusing. It has affected my whole family - especially my teenage son. Non of them would describe my illness as a 'holiday'.
I live in a small town - everyone knows everyones business. I have explained my MI to those who are interested in learning about it. I have learnt who not to bother my time with.
Brochures on anxiety or depression, may be handy to educate some people. Others will never be interested in learning about MI.
Try are surround yourself with those people who do care - who do try to understand.
Don't be afraid of having an MI. It is an injury just like any other injury to the body.
Either ignore those people who put you on 'holiday', or tell them to bugger off, or just say," it's great - the support I'm getting from you and others is helping me to heal".
You do need to build a tough skin. Don't take it to heart. Make a joke of it or see it as an opportunity to educate.
First and foremost - put your mentsl health first.
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17-10-2016 09:16 AM
17-10-2016 09:16 AM
Re: Anxiety panic disorder is not a holiday from work
Hi @snitzel,
there is a common mis-conception out there that if you have had a breakdown, then you must be totally incapacitated - sitting on the floor, babbling gibberish, unable to even go to the toilet by yourself! You and I and @utopia and many others know that this is not true.
People with severe mental illness can often look and act 'normal' (whatever that is.) Even a trained expert would not necessarily know you were suffering, unless you told them your symptoms.
I guess people mean well.... or most of them do. They try to focus on the bright side- "at least she doesn't have to go to work" they think. But their comments come across as dismissive and uncaring.
I remember when I had a breakdown and returned from the big city to stay with my parents in the country... I had severe depression, anxiety and panic disorder. I was medicated to the max. I was teary and restless. My Mum said to me... "You have to get a job if you want to stay here."
As though getting a job would cure me! And the implication being that I was 'faking it', that there was really nothing wrong with me that hard work wouldn't fix. To have that attitude thrown at me by strangers would have been bad enough, but coming from my parents, it was very hurtful.
At their request, I did get a (stressful) job and coped by drinking every night. I probably prolonged my recovery by staying with them and working hard.... but I can only see all this in hindsight.
@snitzel, focus on professional advice for now. Try to ignore those people who aren't supportive. If someone you really care about says something that bothers you, then invite them over and explain your symptoms to them in detail, as much as you feel like revealing, anyway. If you go through everything step by step, they should understand.
I remember explaining what a panic attack was like, physically and mentally- in detail, to my sister and she was blown away by my explanations. She was like "Oh. Dear."
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17-10-2016 09:31 AM
17-10-2016 09:31 AM
Re: Anxiety panic disorder is not a holiday from work
So I was at her house in Feb/March this year when my last one struck. Her family members tried to come to my aid. They just made it worse. She pushed them aside and told them to go away & then she talked me through the steps to help it calm down.
So tell your close friends. Once they get an understanding - they may well be your biggest advocates and supporters
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17-10-2016 05:46 PM
17-10-2016 05:46 PM