A long rave

[Gazza75]

Have birthday @Angels333 , hope you have a nice day down at the beach 🙂

[MDT]

good on you @Angels333 getting out there 🙂

happy birthday my friend. Yes it is very warm today in sydneytown.

don't get burned my friend. Just go out and enjoy your day. You have that much to look forward to 🙂

[Maggie]

Happy birthday @Angels333   I hope you and Mr Angels enjoys the outing. 🎂🎂🎂🌹🌹🌹🌸🌼🌻

[greenpea]

@Angels333  Hey Angels333 Happy Birthday! Hoping you have a wonderful day at Sculptures by the Sea :). Stay well hydrated and as cool as possible. Love peaxxx

[cutiepiekitty]

Hi all. Made it to lunch on a busy day, sitting having pumpkin, ricotta and pine nut quiche with iced coffee. Spent 2 hours with the most adorable little 2 year old cuddled up hanging on like a monkey. She is not used to being away from family, and when mum bought her in she took my hand. I picked her up and she wrapped her arms and legs around me just like a little monkey so mum left saying  to get her if there was any trouble. SHe stayed with me the whole time.

After lunch am setting up for the weekend for the girls. Have most of the building we are decorating etc so will be a long tiring afternoon, but it is worth it for the girls

[Zoe7]

Happy birthday @Angels333 I hope there has been some good in your day so far and you enjoyed the sculptures  Sending you love and hugs especially for today 

[outlander]

happy birthday @Angels333 🎊🎈🎉🎁

[octavia]

this is the worst feeling in the world. knowing you've got  life together. while your step son is spiralling out of control. full well knowing, hes an adult, and there's nothing you can do about it. as you watch him, destroying his own life. he won't listen, he doesn't care. how much time do u invest into it before u go, I give up?

[eth]

Hi again @octavia   I'm deeply feeling your situation at this time.  Sending you all the strength in the world to keep yourself safe and find the right path to walk through the chaos and strife.

At one stage my child's behaviour was so out of line (violently abusive) that I stayed elsewhere away from my home for 3 months.  They were doing grade 12 and are legally blind so I chose not to make them leave.  The police had been called many times by neighbours who thought it was me abusing her.  It was the other way around.  In the end I applied for, and was granted, a modified AVO from the court.  To get that I had to do an affidavit detailing numerous episodes and stating police report numbers.  The AVO said that if she threatened or abused me one more time within the next 12 months she would be charged and it would be on her record forever, but didn't say she had to keep a certain distance from me.  That way we could both reside in the home but she would still be bound by a 'behaviour order'.  The magistrate took her into an office and gave her a good talking to as well.  So I was able to return to my home and we somehow co-existed for another year.  The day after the order expired she acted out on me again.  By this time she was working, so had her own income and the responsibilities of an adult legally.  The police told her she had to go live elsewhere and she took off with her boyfriend.  It was really hard to see that happen but I had no control over it.   And I was safe in my home.  And she didn't have me anymore as a focus for all her anger at the world.  

In recent years we have reconciled, as they are now a decade further into adulthood and a parent, and we have both done a lot of work on forgiveness.  

I am writing my story here with the hope of helping you prevent it getting to that stage with your step-son.   As I said, I really feel for you and I'm hoping you don't have to do what I did, but letting you know you do have the right to peacefully enjoy your home and be safe.

[octavia]

@eth as sad and surprising it is to read your story. in a weird way. I find it comforting. maybe it's the fact that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. that you have experienced it and u made it out to the other side. I really don't know. I'm stuck in that hard place. I've ran out of ideas to try. I guess that's why I feel hopeless. I'm at the stage, his crazy, is making me crazy. I've never thought about suicide before. but that thought did pop into my head earlier in the week. i pulled myself up very quickly, telling myself woah lady, my anxiety and I have a long standing agreement,  we can deal with each other like yin and yang. its fine. one thought of suicide the deals off. the problem is, was it me that thought that? or my anxiety? I have no clue.