‎03-10-2017 08:16 PM
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How do you encourage someone with BPD to seek help?
I don’t know that I have an answer for this one either. Like @Phoenix_Rising, I have found it incredibly difficult to find help, despite actively trying for 19 years.
What I would say, is be there for your loved one when they come up against the many brick walls and dead ends in the health system. Reassure them that it is not a fault with them—the problem is a less than adequate health system.
‎03-10-2017 08:19 PM
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Mr shaz have major depressive and other diagnosis @Former-Member xx
‎03-10-2017 08:22 PM
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For those who may have missed the question we are up to:
Is there a way to explain BPD without people getting confused, scared, or mixing it up with bipolar?
‎03-10-2017 08:23 PM
‎03-10-2017 08:23 PM
You’re right, @Phoenix_Rising — it is all trying to get help.
But when people talk about ‘manipulative’ behaviour, they are referring to behaviour where a person does something on purpose, to make another person respond in a certain way (regardless of what the inner reason may be).
Sorry I haven’t made it any clearer—I’ll try to think of another concrete example.
Manipulative behaviour by people with BPD, is almost always done out of desperation, because a person is trying to deal with inner pain and/or they are terrified of abandonment.
‎03-10-2017 08:23 PM
‎03-10-2017 08:23 PM
Is there a way to explain BPD without people getting confused, scared, or mixing it up with bipolar?
If someone who knew nothing about BPD asked me to explain it, I would say that I am hypersensitive to emotional stimuli. That is, I get super big feelings which flood my brain such that the thinking part doesn't work so well. In terms of distinguishing it from bipolar, I guess the easiest way to explain the difference would be to run through the diagnostic criteria for BPD and BP with them.
‎03-10-2017 08:29 PM
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‎03-10-2017 08:33 PM
‎03-10-2017 08:33 PM
@bookish wrote:You’re right, @Phoenix_Rising — it is all trying to get help.
But when people talk about ‘manipulative’ behaviour, they are referring to behaviour where a person does something on purpose, to make another person respond in a certain way (regardless of what the inner reason may be).
Sorry I haven’t made it any clearer—I’ll try to think of another concrete example.
Manipulative behaviour by people with BPD, is almost always done out of desperation, because a person is trying to deal with inner pain and/or they are terrified of abandonment.
@Former-Member People do things on purpose all the time to elicit help. I stand at the counter of a shop to make the shop assistant come and serve me. Is that manipulative?
If someone tries to elicit help due to pain, desperation and a fear of abandonment, surely that is help-seeking behaviour??? I truly cannot understand this concept. But I have been trying for twenty years, so it's totally ok if you can't make it clear tonight @Former-Member.
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