Thank you for sharing this @Former-Member Sounds like an incredibly painful experience and like you really wanted that sense of understanding. I really do hear you.
I once described it to a friend as physically having very intense grief, perhaps the grief of losing a pet or a loved one - but to seemingly "smaller" things such as an argument with a friend, or someone not responding to your message. It can be a very visceral experience & not always easy to manage. That's what makes those living with BPD so strong and emotionally intelligent in my eyes 
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Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.
SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.
SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.