Ask Anything Monday!

[utopia]

I hear you @BlueBay. Imagine how different work mates would react if you had cancer and had a relapse. They would send you flowers and cards and wishing you all the best. Asking if there is anything they can do to help. This is what I hooe will happen in the future.
I'm so glad you are still strong enough to know hospital is the right option for you at the moment. Don't let the staff give you guilt over looking after your own health.

[BlueBay]

That is so true @utopia.  I remember my first hospital admission a few years ago I received no cards, no flowers, no nothing from family or friends. Not even from my husband or kids!!!!

But when I was admitted in hospital in March for acute asthma, chest infection and gastro I received phone calls, text messages all the time from friends.

Out of all my friends I only had 1 or 2 come to visit me. Says a lot about my friends, doesn't it?

It's like - right this person has a mental illness, she is depressed lets not talk about it. Let's keep quiet and when she comes back no one asks how I am.  

It just really annoys me so much. Yeah I am trying to hang on to another admission, i think right now i am so tired of fighting this all the time.  

Just wish it was now. home alone is terrible eveyone is out. i hate it i really do hate it so much. 

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Rosie, @utopia @mrkotter @NikNik and all others.......

there are some awesome clever answers to this question.........but I thought it was honest @utopia that immediately got me thinking about my situation .....about being overwhelmed at work.....What to do????

When I took a break from my usual job.....of being a support worker, I got year long fulltime work at a popular shopping place. I had .....

no energy

no dea....knowledge

no support.

no knowledge of how to ask for support. It was terrible. I went to speak to my ......manager but I was given a first and last warning.....and then.......by some.fluke of the air or something....I collapsed in the work room and was sobbing one day..... a new ...important  lady....had been sent over from Adelaide to shake the business up and she pressed a few buttons and got me out of work. 

So yes....I'de take a good look at @mrkotter  messages and  

take his advise on: "Think really hard before saying anything. Some bosses are ok and some aren't. I've had both." This is not because it has happened to personally me and him but just because.......it is how it is......

All his suggestions are just spot on and so are @Rosie.....

Im just going to repeat everything what others have written but I really think that this piont that @mrkotter writes is important : to get an ally.

Asking your Pschiatrist from @utopia feels like a good idea too. Feel supported ! 

By the way...I went back to my support work.....I've been with them for over 10 years. They know me very well. Two to 4 years...I've done other things but I'm always back with them. I only  work when and if I can if I can. I only work very few hours.

good luck, Im looking forward to reading other people's advice and experiences,

[utopia]

Being home alone is hard @ sadgirl. When others are around do you feel safer or entertained. What makes the difference when they are there?

[NikNik]

Happy Monday everyone!

Welcome to Ask Anything Monday. If you have a question that you're too apprehensive to ask, email it to team@saneforums.org with Ask Anything Monday as the subject line.

A big thanks to @utopia @Rosie @mrkotter @JackJane @BlueBay @PeppiPatty for your contribution to the discussion last week.

This week's question is:

My mother had pnd (post natal depression) for a long time and  i grew up anxious and insecure as a result (but not all bad!). Not surprisingly i had pnd when i had a child of my own but although i can understand why i got pnd i can't seem to forgive myself. Having known the experience myself i feel so guilty that my son has suffered the experience of having a mother with pnd too.  

How can i forgive myself and find peace? 

[Former-Member]

I can see how that guilt is eating away at you, given your experiences in childhood with your own mother. However it's so important to remember that your experiences are your own, distinct and separate to your child. Although it's challenging, it's important not to blur those lines, thinking that your own experience must be just like your childs. I can assure you that you’re not alone in what you’re going through. Several of our fellow members here have received a diagnosis of PND. @Undertheweather @Bron1206 @Bec1985 @lisajane @Bluestar @BethPaige and @TassieMumPlease feel free to jump in and share your insights and advice.

You might like to read over these threads with talk about PND:

Friendships after PND

Unsure where to turn

To self-admit or not

Another baby after PND

PND & marriage problems

Take care. Mosaic.

[mzzzk]

Thanks so much for your thoughts and perspective - really appreciate it.

[NikNik]

Happy Monday everyone!

Thanks @Former-Member and @mzzzk for your input last week.

This week's question is:

Basically my question is, can a high generalised state of anxiety cause constant paranoia? I feel like this is what im experiencing. I've been feeling very internally defensive. I constantly catch myself reacting verbally and physically to hundreds of imagined hypothetical scenarios in my thoughts.

How do I stop this? Is this anxiety and should I asked to be treated for this?

[coffeegirl]

Hi there,

That sounds really exhausting for you!

Anxiety can make your mind race a million miles an hour and I believe it races so fast that you can't catch what you're thinking and next minute you're down a track of thought and wonder how on earth you got there.

My suggestions would be:

Find strategies and activities that calm you down

See a psychologist to work on your inner thoughts to get a better hold of them

When you notice your thoughts tell yourself 'this is just one scenario that may happen' so you don't get emotionally caught up in something that hasn't transpired.

Good luck!