Morning @Zoe7 @Snowie and anyone else around.

I know it sounds a bit simplistic @Snowie, but can you find a shoebox and “decorate” it with small cut out images from magazines of things that you associate with her ?  You can begin with a layer of images that represent anger, distress and disappointment, and then “wallpaper” over it with other images that perhaps disguise the feelings you have expressed underneath, but you know they are there.  You know that you are allowed to have those feelings, but the outer layer of the box is your privacy shield.  The box actually belongs to her …… when she says something nasty, write it down on a piece of paper and “return” it to her by way of the box.  There will come a time in the future where you will be able to return all of those nasty things to her, because they are hers, not yours, and not for you ….. or you will be able to dispose of the box in a way that feels right to you at the time.

Ots just a suggestion Hon, but I hope it helps.

Anothrr approach might be to write the nasty comment on toilet paper, and then flush it !!