Hi @Appleblossom , @Shaz51 , @Jo-anneJoy , @Wanderer , @Former-Member
and other members visiting this thread
Yes @Appleblossom , your comment gives me cause to consider, of what it is that I am thinking, when I use the word "appropriate".
I do not view the word "appropriate" as having the connotation of what is good or bad, right or wrong. Rather, to me, it raises the questions of the relative merits {another loaded word} of the factors to be taken into consideration in making decisions. The "factors to be taken into consideration" need carry no pejorative connotation, neither should the appropriateness of any decision derived from those considerations.
Words can be loaded with certain meanings, according to our own experience of their application In our respective life events. Language is, indeed, an imperfect form of communication, but it is the best we've got and so we have to make the best of it.
For me, the word "appropriate" means being consistent with the circumstances, given due consideration, relating to the people for whom it has any consequent effects. etc. In this way it is not an absolute by which anything, thought action or behaviour can be judged but, rather, related to and varying with the environment in which an event takes place.
I am conscious that many of my posts are quite long, so to put the four lines of the previous paragraph in place of the word "appropriate" might be considered in-appropriate. Though not necessarily right or wrong, good or bad, particularly since people have the choice as to whether they read, or do not read the comment.
Your "young social worker" may have done well to consider their own position and attitude in terms of "emotional maturity" and have read up on 'nurturing guidance' rather than 'aggressive correction' and 'accusatory bullying', both the latter of which might be viewed as signs of 'emotional immaturity' and even insecurity.
I am saddened to know of the fairly long lasting effect that the young social worker's words had on you.
With Best Wishes
@HenryX
