Hi @Tryingtostaystr 🙂

Welcome back to our SANE forum space - we're happy you reached out to share with the community ❤️

It's lovely to read that you and your daughters are aware of how you can support your wife and that care and compassion are a great source of support for her! I can imagine you're a tight-knit family, working together to support one another.

On the other hand, I am sorry to hear that you have been dealing with the social media posts - it's great you have reached out to her case manager and I hope they are able to support her and provide some steps or solutions to in order to keep your wife and family safe.

To me, it sounds like you are your wife's main source of support, and carer, and I am curious if you have asked yourself the following questions:

What is important to share with my children? (Consider what impacts them, or the importance of sharing particular bits of info)

Why do I want to share this with them? (Is it for you, or for them? Do they have the capacity to learn more about what is going on - and is this just information sharing or coming with expectations to provide more care, etc.)

How would you like to share with your children - together, separately, as a family with consideration of your wife and being inclusive in the whole process? (This could look like talking together coming from both parents to children - as an idea!)

I hope these questions may be useful for some reflection, perhaps they may provide you with answers as to where the line is drawn, or what needs to be shared for family transparency.

Warmest,
PizzaMondo 🙂

P.S. Family therapy sounds like a fantastic idea! Just make sure everyone is on board so things can go smoothly and no one feels forced to be somewhere they don't want to be! Therapy only works if everyone's there to work together!