Hello @Brownowl so sorry to hear that you are in this situation. You obviously love your partner but cant do anything to lift him out of his anxiety/depression and addiction to alcohol. It doesn't sound like an enviable situation to be in for either of you.
There is a new therapy called Mental and Emotional Release which I learned about from the Chopra Center in the USA. Don't know if there are any therapists doing this modality in Australia but it gets astonishing results when dealing with emotional trauma according to psychiatrists and psychologists. I have provided a screenshot of the book. They have not seen such outcomes before with other therapies.
With your partners anxiety/depression he may have poor vagal tone. The vagus nerve runs right through the body and having this nerve attended to can dramatically reduce levels of anxiety. There are instructional videos on you tube on how to work with your vagus nerve to fine tune it and alleviate anxiety. I had a facebook friend that did vagus nerve stimulation and her anxiety was dramatically reduced.
You may also benefit from Trudy Scott's (nutritionist's) work on anxiety. Trudy used to suffer with chronic anxiety and her stress levels were at an all time high - she says you can realistically reduce your anxiety to zero. All her materials are online and are for free apart from her book. She has a blog called everywomanover29 and there is stacks of information that is free.
Alcohol is only going to make his depression worse but I sense its a coping mechanism to drown out negative emotions and trauma.
I hope you have some success with exploring these ideas. I have witnessed some incredible turnarounds in people
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