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Hi @outlander, I hope you feel better today. I second what @tyme said. You haven’t ruined any relationships on the forums from what I’ve seen. You are a precious soul, the forums wouldn’t be the same place without you 💖

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Hello @Eve7 @Bow @creative_writer 

 

I agree with @tyme about life stages and you @outlander def being a good presence on the forums.  How much is an over share or an undershare??? Seems pretty fickle to tell or to get it right.  

 

Yep I too am practising by writing before speaking.  Last year was my social re-engagement year.  I learned a lot and mingled a bit.  Social rules or norms are always shifting according to who has the highest status in the particular group.  This year I am focussing on other things. I will continue to reflect on my social life, cos I simply have always been like that, but it is not going to be my main focus for this year.  I have a right to be a person like all the other people, just be me, make mistakes, apologise and move on, and so do you.  Not blaming self for other people's limitations. I am doing work on my people pleasing and little helper mode, and trying to expand my "recipe range" if you get what I mean.  People also boast about friends as a kind of proof that they are better.  

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How are you @outlander ?

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@creative_writer thank you for your kind words. your so lovely Heart

@Appleblossom im trying to focus on other things too, other goals. its hard though sometimes. it always feels easier to mingle and be social behind a screen then in real life hey.

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@outlander sending love hon. Hoping things are going as well as they can ♥️

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im struggling abit @tyme
i think with everything happening its all come to a tee and just need to process things like i resigned from a job to take on the new job and then i lost that one so its all been tough and the increased behaviours that are happening at home. its all just been alot to process the last few weeks. the fact that ivr had to go back to the most toxic environment to work in is really hard for me and i dont want to be there at all. ive only done one shift there the last few days and it feels like its broken me already

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@Snowie Heart

are you still on holidays?

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Yes @outlander should be home about the 11th/12th.

 

I'm sorry things are not great for you hon. I have been reading along in the background.

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hey @tyme are you around? would it be possible to talk on email? i just need some help with a document for a new support company but theres to many personal details to be shared on here

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Of course @outlander !