i cant keep on doing this

[Bubbles3]

faith-and-hope

[Phoenix_Rising]

Hi @Bubbles3,

It sounds like today is really tough in your part of the world. I am struggling myself, so I'm not sure that I can be particularly helpful other than to say that I hear you. This time of year is very very difficult. 

[Bubbles3]

i just wish my hubby was nicer to me. i wish things were calmer in this house. @Phoenix_Rising

[Phoenix_Rising]

I can hear how much you long for calm @Bubbles3. Given I've never had a partner-type relationship as an adult I'm not going to even pretend to understand. All I can say is that I hear you.

[Bubbles3]

it 3 days until xmas and how am i meant to put on a happy face on with the kids @Phoenix_Rising iv got nothing to be happy about. my hubby hate me. it seem he doesnt even want to be around me. i just feel so lost and lonely

[Faith-and-Hope]

This troubled time will pass over you @Bubbles3, as hard as it seems right now, based on the fact that you and hubby are usually pretty good at tackling things together, as you have said here before. For him to be behaving this way, he must be really stressed, and you’re really stressed, and instead of stressing together and working out together, I am hearing you say that he is stressing at you ......

Can you use “I statements”, like you are here @Bubbles3 ? Like .....

I feel unsupported in this situation.
I need support.
I understand you see it that it was caused by me ..... I see it differently .... I was reaching out for help ..... and I should be reaching out for help.
I don’t know why it has ended up like this.
I need someone to stand by me.
I care about you and I am hurting, I miss you helping me.
I need you to help me.

[Phoenix_Rising]

It sounds like the super wise @Faith-and-Hope will be about a bazillion times more helpful than me @Bubbles3. Given that I am completely socially isolated and preparing to bunker down and survive the next fortnight utterly alone, it is hard for me to understand your situation. I think @Faith-and-Hope can probably relate to your current struggle a trillion times more than I can so I am going to leave you in her super safe hands. I do hear you though. I know you are super struggling and I know that Christmas makes the things we struggle with all the time, just that little bit harder. 

[Bubbles3]

thanks @Phoenix_Rising @Faith-and-Hope

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thinking of you too @Phoenix_Rising ...,,

You are very good at hearing people..... and that matters ..... 🌷