Moving forward (sexual abuse )

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member
@Hope-and-faith
@BlueBay
@utopia
@Former-Member

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member

Im not sure if you're talking about a pap smear? I find them difficult. Something that you can talk to your gp about and working out ways of getting through it... and any other triggering procedures.

there are ways,

lj

[Former-Member]

Yep that horrid thing @Former-Member
I havent disclosed with my gp about this yet

[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-Hope

[Former-Member]

you could also take a support person with you or ask a nurse to be in with you to hold your hand. Its thankfully quite quick, but probably not something to worry about until you speak to the dr and then decide on a time after that.

lj

[Former-Member]

Yeah ive never had one and really avoiding it @Former-Member
Really really avoiding it to the extent i don't think im going to tell her about the abuse. ..

[utopia]

@Former-Member. It is very important that you tell your gp about the abuse you went through.
A pap smear - although a regular medical check up - is still invasive - especially for women who have been abused. By advising your gp - she can put things in place to make this easier for you and less triggering.

[Former-Member]

Im too scared to tell her. I dont really know if putting here was s good idea.... its making me feel quite sick ands very triggerring @utopia

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member .... my advice would be that if your GP hasn't asked for one, you are still very young, and I would wait until you are ready to hurdle this, or it comes up in convo with your GP as a matter of course ....

Everything in its own time Hon .... you are feeling triggered by this, and fearful.  I think you have a few bridges you can cross ahead of trying to tackle this one .... and take the time you need, in baby steps.

@Former-Member is right ... when you are ready you can take a support person with you, and the GP will be discreet and cover you for privacy.

Dont worry ,... just park this one up for now,  If there were an immediate issue you would have symptoms that would be taking you to the GP.

❤️💕

[Former-Member]

I really hope so

Just another question. Sorry..

Did you find it affects your relationships?
I had a boyfriend at 14 and broke up before the abuse started but i often wondered if his plans were the same.
I cant even be touched now not even by females. It triggers me and starts to make the anxiety flood through me.
I cant be in a room with a male alone and i cant be in a room with more than 2 males at all.
My mothers in a relationship and soon to be wed
This new man has a different feel about him. His personality is nothing like the other one and seems trust worthy. But to me no male is trustworthy. I cant leave my sisters with him i wont even leave them with my pop for gods sake. Whats wrong with me?