Life

[Mazarita]

@Former-Member When I briefly did admin at the court, I have to say that many of the cases left dissatisfaction all round amongst the family members involved. The court giving your ex no overnight visits without a psychologist actively recommending it, suggests to me that they may be taking very seriously his behaviour. I understand your fears for your children, though I've not been in the same situation. I'm hoping at the least that if he hasn't hit them before, he will draw the line there in future too. It's not huge consolation I know. Excessive anger without violence is damaging too. I'm with you hoping he gets some anger management counselling and that it does help him. 

[Former-Member]

Thank you @Shimmer I'm trying to be in the moment and not reread the negative stuff and over and just keep going - it's been a busy after noon and evening with kindy and school celebrations and now I'm working in the morning which also is scaring me but need to do it. Last day of school for the year so I can't put it off.
I ate tonight and showered - mostly because I have to work tomorrow but still counting that as self care ..

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @Former-Member

This is just an idea but do you think going to say hello to your GP will be okay for you ?

Having a shower ....is self care, honey. Try not to think too much about 'what ifs with your ex.....
Can you think that in the New Year we can all think of a list of proactive things you can do ..... Like maybe writing a letter to the newspaper
..... Something short and sweet and powerful about DV, violent partners and covering it all because of MI
Day by day ..... You can do something nice for yourself until the new Year
A shower
Maybe a cup of tea late at night
Draw a picture .... therss a great way of transferring photocopies on paper and even furniture with mod podge


I'm 48 years old and when things are very overwhelming for me I drop in to my GP to say hello

[Former-Member]

Thank you peppy patty
I like idea of that paper article xx

Lj

[Former-Member]

I'm not ok I'm so far from ok I'm falling off a cliff and there's just no way to stop the fall I'm just so tired of everything

[Jacques]

please be kind to yourself @Former-Member, remember this is only a temporary feeling, things will get better in time.

you have had a lot on your plate this year, i am hoping things are a bit more settled for you next year.

take care, be safe

jacques

[Former-Member]

Thanks Jacques it has gotten better in the past then worse again and harder each time. I'm tired and can't sleep and I'm scared of myself and I can't tell anyone Bevause of family court but it doesn't matter anymore. I'm just so alone - I wish I had someone with me but I don't deserve anything and it's just too hard

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Former-Member

I've just hopped on to say night night to you and see charming @Jacques has written a lovely message to you.

So many people : real people care about you here. I really care about you.
Please think just thoughts in the moment if you can

Reads like the MI support worker cares about you because you are you honey

Thinking about you ....
Me and Arlo cuddle to you and your 2 beautiful children
Xxx

[Appleblossom]

Dear @Former-Member

I can really hear that it is a torrid time right now, but

YOU DO DESERVE SUPPORT. 

[Former-Member]

Thank you peppipatty and Appleblossom I'm sorry I've let this happen and get so low just so much all time