18-02-2018 09:04 PM
18-02-2018 09:04 PM
19-02-2018 09:08 PM
19-02-2018 09:08 PM
@CheerBear PR's brain all broken. Super care about CB. CB ok? Snuggle. Sleep. Will pass.
19-02-2018 09:26 PM
19-02-2018 09:26 PM
20-02-2018 11:27 AM
20-02-2018 11:27 AM
Hey @CheerBear,
just dropping in to see how you are going? From the outside looking in it looks like you’ve been giving so much support but there is much turmoil within. You don’t need to talk about it here, I just wanted to let you know I’m here to support should you need.
Sent from someone who is totally tumultuous currently but trying to find up in the crazy 😜:face_with_rolling_eyes:
💜🤗
20-02-2018 01:26 PM
20-02-2018 01:26 PM
20-02-2018 01:37 PM
20-02-2018 01:37 PM
@CheerBear Pocket crew help CB be brave for operation? Need Pjs with polkadotted unicorns.
20-02-2018 01:53 PM
20-02-2018 01:53 PM
Pocket crew will definitely be there @Phoenix_Rising ☺ They won't let me take them in in though, so I'm thinking I might hide a little drawing somewhere. I can get my brave on I just have to control my frustration at it all, which is more the thing I think.
You know there are no polkadotted unicorn pjs that I could find 🙁 . I found this amazing set though (which wouldn't reach me on time plus it is in French and I don't think impulse online purchases in another language are a good idea right now 😉)
It's like a little bundle of goodness 😁
20-02-2018 02:15 PM
20-02-2018 02:15 PM
Hiya @CheerBear,
I’m really hesitant to write this but wanted to share my experiences with facing a new life (or maybe trying to face a new one as in my case). I’m really hoping this doesn’t add to any angst and it is just my thoughts and feelings. I’m aware that yours may be very different.
In my 6 and a half years experience I’ve learned (and mostly the hard way) that I can’t and won’t ever be able to recreate my old life for very different (and some maybe some of the same reasons as you). I think the first part for me is knowing I broke and will never go back the same way. I have access to my village still, I have been very fortunate that there is pretty much always a warm friendly hand to greet me in my old village but it doesn’t work like that anymore. For lots of reasons I can’t talk about (emotional reasons) I learned that it’s not enough. I’m not part of that 'world' anymore. This falls into geographical, socioeconomic, lifestyle, careers and trauma that didn’t just affect me. The divide has become too great. I tried lots but it just kept creating more pain. So now I see my old village once or twice a year and as of the last time before Christmas I enjoyed the catch up but knew that it was not something I’m able to do on a regular basis. Even though it’s enjoyable it’s very emotional and draining and anxiety provoking.
Just lately, especially after volunteering (but also from being on the forum) I see that there are so many people that have their lives turned upside down through no fault of their own and at the hands of others. I guess it makes me feel less alone and have mostly accepted that life is a bitch sometimes. I must admit I haven’t struggled with anger over my stuff (which was actually an issue everyone kept raising) and I’m not in your situation at all. I know it’s very very different. I guess I wanted to share that even if you could go back it wouldn’t be the same any longer. So much has changed that makes it different, it just can’t go back once the genie is out of the bottle. What I do know though is you’ve done it once and you’ll do it again. It will be a different village but just as supportive and as fulfilling as your old one......and to lighten it up the grass is never greener on the other side. There will be differences but there will be new things too that are positive.
So @CheerBear you can do this, we need your pedometer just counting each baby step so you can see how far you’ve come. This weeks adventure ( with let’s go the whole hog and have polka dot unicorn pjs) will be another anxiety provoking experience that will get to another step closer to where you want to be
And just in case you’ve forgotten
And
(Think it might be time to create some you’ve got this images 😳)
💜🤗
20-02-2018 02:43 PM
20-02-2018 02:43 PM
21-02-2018 02:14 AM
21-02-2018 02:14 AM
Stopping by to drop off some snuggle pillows and warm hugs for @CheerBear
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Making a new life-place for oneself is daunting, that's for sure. Very few things will be the same as they were before, and sometimes that is for the best, even though we so wholeheartedly wish it was otherwise.
I wrote a whole heap of stuff but deleted it. I wish life and living was different.
My whole identity has been changed so for me there is no going 'back' to anything or anyone.
Don't worry about the craft thing - we'll get to it when we get to it.
Be well CheerBear, or as well as you can be at any given moment.
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