I dont know how much longer i can go on like this

[Sans911]

@outlander I'm hoping you are asleep by now. Just dropping by to say goodnight my lil Sis 😴💞💞💞

[Phoenix_Rising]

---

@outlander wrote:

my psych said she cant help me, only i can help msyelf. what faith do i now have in the mh system? for someone who cant help themselves to be told that not even a mh professional cant help.

---

@outlander I always find it utterly absurd when psychologists say "only you can help yourself." I have had numerous psychologists say that to me over the years. My response has always been "then what the f*ck am I paying you for?" Thus far no psychologist has been able to come up with an answer to that one.

I think it is one of those idiotic fluffy lines that, when you unpack it, has no substance to it. I mean really, if a psychologist truly believed that they couldn't help anyone and that the person can only ever help themselves, then what does the psychologist possibly think they are getting paid to do???

People can learn skills to help them regulate and cope with big feelings better. People can heal from trauma related issues in the context of a super safe therapeutic relationship. People can learn assertiveness skills so that they can better get their needs met in their environment. These things are doable...if only you can find a therapist skilled enough to do it.

From what I can tell, when a psychologist does the "only you can help yourself" thing, what they are actually saying is "I don't know how to help you." That doesn't mean you are unhelpable, it just means that that particular psychologist lacks the skill to help you.

[Sans911]

@Phoenix_Rising perfectly said

[outlander]

Thank you everyone for your msgs. Ill be back on later. I slept but it doesnt touch how tired i am. Feeling shatterred atm so will just need abit of time to come back.
Sorry to address everyone in one msg and i realise its impersonal but ill be back later on when i dont need toothpicks to keep my eyes open.

❤❤❤

[Sans911]

@outlander completely understable hun. I've the same problem with lack of sleep

[outlander]

Thanks sis @Sans911 ❤ i hope you can catch up on some sleep today ❤❤

[Former-Member]

Take it easy @outlander 💗💗💗

[outlander]

Im not SW sis @Former-Member take care of you today ❤
I have 2 paddocks to clean 2 bathtubs to clean feed and usual routine as well as stuff at home
Will be back ❤

[Former-Member]

you are to me sis @outlander 💕💕💕

[outlander]

Aww your making me emotional at least its a good way today @Former-Member your a sw too ❣❣