Feeling fed up

[creative_writer]

@tyme, it has taken both meds and work in therapy to get here, I don’t want it to all go down. Going off meds or decreasing it is probably not a good idea right now, I need to have experienced stability for longer in order to do that

[wellwellwellnez]

Vert in sync with you @creative_writer  . Yesterday I was feeling rotten till I realized the main reason I was feeling rotten was me so consistently trying to put a positive spin on things. Too much of that was robbing me of well earned annoyance, anger and other very useful and valid emotions.

And, that's a really good quote. Jung is such a yoga-head. I love it.

[creative_writer]

@wellwellwellnez, I think learning to sit with discomfort is hard. I don’t think it naturally comes to us. I feel like sometimes other people don’t know what to say or know how to hold other people’s pain. I know we have become better at talking about emotional pain, but we have a long way to go

[Former-Member]

I’m so scared of causing offence that I read and re-read my posts over and over again. What did I write? Have I offended that individual? Will I get a response, perhaps maybe even a thumbs up? But I feel for you. I wasn’t validated growing up, was told to put up with it all, to accept not to whinge. Was told as my sister became mentally unwell that I wasn’t the one suffering, to just deal with it. And so I did, as best I could at that age. 

[RiverSeal]

Hey @Former-Member thank you for your post and thoughts here on the Forums! I read my posts over and over sometimes so I have them correct and I get worried about missing something haha. I have had those feelings about saying the right thing and offending people sometimes too.

I hope you feel validated here on the Forums as we all have MH issues and life has been challenging in different ways. 

It's great to have you as part of the community!

Take care

RiverSeal

[creative_writer]

@Former-Member and @RiverSeal, I do find myself checking my posts, texts and emails before sending them across. I’ve sort of always been a pathological people pleaser in a way, I am naturally mindful of not offending people. It’s something that I need to work on.

@Former-Member, it’s hard not feeling validated, but we all have valid emotions and experiences. When I first developed depressive symptoms, my parents thought I would grow out of it. I have mental illness in my family which certainty did add to the complexity, I’ve found anxious parents often have anxious children. The anxiety can get transferred. Likewise, I wouldn’t be surprised if your sister’s mental health affected yours. I hope you find the forums to be a safe place 💖

[Former-Member]

Hello @creative_writer, @RiverSeal, ha! So I’m not the only one re checking! I too want to please, and am so frightened I will offend!  Thank you for your thoughts, the paranoia stems from my illness, I think.