Christmas blues

[Former-Member]

Thanks for this last year's thread @Former-Member  Christmas is hard for me. I live away from family and if I get to them (never the other way), its so disfunctional and shallow and loud and... ... ... I find it sad every time. And now with added tensions of mum fading away with terminal cancer and dads dementia worse and 1/2 siblings not talking to each other, and living alone, and worst of all - this is the 6th year of my beautiful only daughter went to heaven  😞   its hard to celebrate. I try but its for show mostly. Though my deep faith does have an elelement of hidden joy & hope that stops total despair most days. 💙💙💙

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member - sending you a warm hug. I do know the pain of dysfunctional family and the deep long lasting pain of grief. I so wish I could take your pain away....but I am here anytime you need to talk, post here anytime it gets really hard. I really do get it....this time of year can emphasis that grief, and the lonliness of it is felt more I find.

So sorry to read about your parents...this is so hard, to watch those we love suffer. I sometimes think we go through it just as much. It is very difficult to celebrate under those circumstances. Hang onto your faith as the real meaning of this time of year, that is mostly lost in society now, does give believers real hope....hope that we are not alone in this, that we will be given the strength to endure one day at a time, and that one day there will be "no more tears". Imagine that. That's cause for celebration as that hope and love came into the world.

Please know you are with friends who understand you here and you are never alone. Its always good to talk and to be heard when feeling the blues at this time of the year. 🤗🌹

Your daughter is always with you in your heart ❤️💜 xxx 

[Maureen]

I know exactly how you feel!! I'm struggling with this whole christmas thing, I dread it. I've spent the last 3 weeks crying at the drop of a hat for no reason. I have my husband and 1 child at home, the other child is a fifo worker. Its so hard on them all they dont know how to help me, I'm at my wits end because I desperately want to be happy and in control of my life. I'm sad 24/7  and i'm sick and tired of it. I feel like a massive burden on my family and their lives would be sooo much easier without me!!

[SleepyPanda]

Hi @Maureen

Welcome to the forum, it is positive to share your experiences with other members who are going through similar feelings. Christmas sometimes is the most difficult time of the year for a lot of people, especially when the TV bombards messages of how you have to be happy and perfect with everything just right.

Try to take the pressure away from yourself and be kind to yourself, take a deep breath and give yourself a moment.

The forum provides a place for people to express their feelings without any guilt.

@Former-Member @Former-Member @CherryBomb @Former-Member 

SleepyPanda

[Former-Member]

Hi @Maureen 

Nice to meet you. I have a hubby and 2 kids at home and can relate what you are going through. If I had my wish I would cancel xmas altogether, curl up in a ball and not come out of my room. I too feel like a burden to my family.

However, I know for the sake of my family I cannot do that and have to somehow get through this "festive" season.

You will find alot of people on here that can relate to how you feel. Please keep connecting on here. There are alot of social spaces to especially a good morning one. I can tag you in it tomorrow. 

If you want to ag someone just put a @ in front of their name, so mine would be @Former-Member

Hope to talk again soon 

[Gypsy7]

Hi @Former-Member and-enigma- I too find Xmas hard just want to hide on day. I also know loss of a different kind and I'm far up in QLD when all my family is in Adelaide and I don't see my sons at all on the actual day for 8 years now. I have faith which is my saving Grace in my loss and the insanity with it. One of my family members is my abuser too as well as my children's father. I've crashed today seeing my neighbours Xmas tree and her grand kids playing. The season is a season to be thankful and I am for what I have but when your without loved ones it so hard. May you both be blessed this season and new year.

[Former-Member]

Christmas is so hard and I try to tell myself that it's just one day but it's so much more than that. I am so grateful to have my kids this year but scared after they've had Christmas with their dad already that I'll disappoint. But it will be what it will be now. Right now I just want to sleep.... And have this overly busy brain turn off. So many bad memories as well of years past. I'm glad I don't have my family to contend with but it's hard to be alone.
Welcome @Maureen and hi to everyone else. I'm typing on my phone and it's so hard to do names...