Bouncing back from break-and-enter / burglary / theft

[BPDSurvivor]

Dear all,

In my life, I’ve experienced people breaking in to my property, turn the place upside down, then run off with whatever they wanted.

The first time it happened (a number of years ago), I think at first, I was in shock and didn’t feel anything. Two days later, in the evening, ‘they’ came back and stole my car. That was when I really lost it. I ended up needing situational crisis support, and from there I ended up in the coronary unit in hospital as well as ICU for a few weeks because I having heart issues.

It took weeks for me to heal and recover. In the evenings, I’d still ‘hear’ things and it would trigger an unpleasant response.

So, moving on from that, I am due to move house this coming Saturday. However, yesterday, I returned home (current house) to find my house had been broken into…again. So far, I have not ‘felt’ it, nor had any response at all except - ‘what a waste of time’.

I slept at my house like normal, woke up like normal and went to work like normal. While at work, the police called and said they were at my house to do fingerprinting and whatever else. I just told them to go ahead.

Tonight is my nephew’s 5th birthday so I’m having dinner out.

I still don’t ‘feel’ anything, even though my own home has been broken into and my refuge invaded.

The last thing I want is a repeat of a few years ago where I nearly died.

So have you ever had an experience of theft/break-in etc? How did you cope?

[Former-Member]

@BPDSurvivor I have had my beloved car stolen though I was planning to sell it. They broke into the house and walked past where my mum was sleeping, lucky dog didn’t bark otherwise probably shit storm. Most likely kids. 

do you think you were targeted by the same people? Or random occurrence?

sorry to hear seems like “we” cop it the worst though we try… sorry just how I see it… stay strong

[Little_Leopard]

@BPDSurvivor. Maybe you are holding it in or waiting until it’s safe to fall apart. Do your best to talk about is as much as possible and continue to validate the seriousness of the situation so that when it does finally hit you, the impact will be reduced.

there is also the possibility that it only hit your hard last time because it happened two times in a row. 
hopefully this time it’s not bothering you to much because you know you are moving soon. But either way you still owe it to yourself to acknowledge what you went through and that someone broke into your space. That’s not ok and you deserve to have your boundaries respected.

maybe to reduce the potential impact and prevent it from re occurring you can plan to have your new place fitted with security cameras or an alarm system. That might feel a bit more empowering and comforting. It is not ok for anyone to break into your house. 

[BPDSurvivor]

Thank you for responding @Little_Leopard @Former-Member ,

It just feels like a complete invasion! 

Im so glad I can ‘get it out’ here on the forums because I know I wouldnt talk to others about it. My work and family is kept very separate to what happens in my life.

I just visited my neighbours, and they were broken into too. So my place was broken into first, then theirs. The police know this because my tools and my belongings were found in the neighbour’s property.

I haven’t even contacted my insurance yet. I’m so over the process. But really wanted to let it out here on the forums so I don’t need to bottle anything up.

Such a slim chance of detectives finding anything. I’m not even going to bother hoping.

@Former-Member , I’m not sure it it’s targeted. Sad if it is.

Thank you everyone for listening. 

[Former-Member]

Well tbh @BPDSurvivor the cops told me it’s a one off thing that happened and they wouldn’t be back, I guess they know what they are talking about cause it’s been 3 years and nothing since. We’ve been Brocken into twice but years apart, hope you had insurance 

[Little_Leopard]

@BPDSurvivor 

Unfortunately some areas are notorious for being broken into. The areas seem to get a name for themselves and all the thieves seem to flock to those areas because it the “norm” for that area. It’s like they feel safe stealing from those areas because others are doing it to.

Great, I am glad that you are getting it all out now. It is a horrible breach of your privacy and personal space. Definitely worth getting that security system so that if there is ever a “next time” you can hand in some footage. 
Plus theives done like to break into houses that have security systems and cameras. Houses that don’t have security systems and cameras are seen as easy targets, especially in areas where break ins a are common.

FYI, About 7 years ago there was a big thing in our area where horrible criminals where stealing peoples dogs out of there back yards so that they could make money of the dogs by putting them in horrible underground dog fighting betting rings. My area became known for having dogs stolen so the thieves kept returning. It only stopped when there was wide spread community communication about the situation and people set up security measures to stop it. So security systems and cameras are definitely the best deterrent for thieves.

I hope your move goes well and you feel safer there.

[NatureLover]

Oh no, @BPDSurvivor !! 😮 😞

So sorry to hear. I agree about a security system in your new place, given that you had such a scary reaction before. 

Hope you are OK... 💙

[FloatingFeather]

HI @BPDSurvivor,

I really sorry to read this has happened to you twice. That must be a lot to sit with but I do encourage you to keep sharing your feelings and thoughts with us on the Forums if that helps in anyway. I really do hope you are okay - please take care of yourself.

Warm wishes,

FloatingFeather

[Shaz51]

Ohhh my darling @BPDSurvivor 

Soo sorry to read this 

Here for you and sitting with you 

Here if you want to chat 

Love and hugs from your forum mum xoxo 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Oh no @BPDSurvivor  I am so sorry to hear this has happened, and not at all surprised that you are carrying forward in a sort of numbed state.  I can’t imagine how awful this is for you, and appreciate so much that you are able to “spit it out” here ……. please keep talking about it as much as you feel you can, and I hope the move goes as smoothly as possible.

Hugs n hugs n hugs n hugs ……. sitting with you Hon.

🌷💕💜