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im back..... i think
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05 May 2017 02:53 PM
05 May 2017 02:53 PM
Re: im back..... i think
@Faith-and-Hope there is something else bothering me but I'm kinda embarrassed but i think i trust i enough
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05 May 2017 03:12 PM
05 May 2017 03:12 PM
Re: im back..... i think
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05 May 2017 03:13 PM
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05 May 2017 03:18 PM
05 May 2017 03:18 PM
Re: im back..... i think
I feel stupid and embarrassed that a puppy can even set off my anxiety and fears @Faith-and-Hope
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05 May 2017 03:40 PM
05 May 2017 03:40 PM
Re: im back..... i think
If you can gently oat the occasional placid dog, it will give you positive association with dogs instead of just being left with a negative one.
Be mindful when you are patting one (always ask the owner first) of how soft and warm their fur feels. Sit and watch them sometimes too, if you can .... watching how calm and living they can be with those around them.
I was kicked by a horse when I was about 8 years old. Some teens had ridden their two horses into a gated playground, and as they turned around, I was behind one of the horses and it kicked out, knocking me to the ground. I went running to my mum, shocked and in tears. I didn't know at the time that she had been kicked by a horse in the chest when she was only 4yo and was luck to survive (draught horse!) with damaged lungs that made her very ill throughout her childhood .... so it must have been traumatic for her to find that I had been kicked .....
If I nursed that memory and only that memory, I would have remained fearful of horses, I am sure.... but I worked to overcome that fear, and eventually even took some riding lessons. My mum was an amazing woman and she encouraged me. It was years later that I found out how badly she had suffered from the horse kick she was so badly injured by.
See how you go @ourlander .... work within your own comfort level .... you don't have to work to overcome this fear, but it will give you greater freedom from it if you choose to do so.
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05 May 2017 03:50 PM
05 May 2017 03:50 PM
Re: im back..... i think
Ive been kinda desensiting abit but unintentionally in a way. I couldnnt look a pictures of dogs 3 yrs ago and i drew a wolf and 2 dogs the other week which required me looking at pics
@Faith-and-Hope
I do want to get better though i just thought i couldve reacted better today. It was a puppy for gods sake.
OMG ive just had a breakthrough as to why i did that. WHOLY SHITE
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05 May 2017 03:59 PM
05 May 2017 03:59 PM
Re: im back..... i think
You are right to trust @Faith-and-Hope. She is so lovely isnt she? I hope what she is saying is helping you
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05 May 2017 04:16 PM
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05 May 2017 04:52 PM - edited 05 May 2017 06:45 PM
05 May 2017 04:52 PM - edited 05 May 2017 06:45 PM
Re: im back..... i think
@Faith-and-Hope@Anony18@NikNik@Former-Member@CherryBomb
im going to attempt to get my thoughts out tht i think ive had my breakthrough with though im not sure how its going to work out... please tell me if any of it doesnt make sense
i think it sounds very stupid and i dont even know if its a breakthrough or a possibliltiy but ill see what you guys think......
so with my sisters attack ive always blamed myself and always thought i could do more. ive always always regretted not putting my arm further up to protect her ace from gettin bitten and she was standing in front of me with my arms resting arund her pretty much on her waist as she was walking on my toes and thats one of my protective stances. what good that did hey
but anyway back to the point ive always had this thought that if i had of protected her with my arm it wouldve bit me instead of her... when i think of a dog or see a dog and again when that dog came up to my my imediate thought and reactions are to put my arm out. maybe thats my minds way of 'protecting'
hopefully that makes sense, if anyne can add to this to help me make abit more sense of it that would be good. i dont even know if that sounds normal or if its even possible but theres my thoughts..
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05 May 2017 04:54 PM
05 May 2017 04:54 PM
Re: im back..... i think
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