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Thanks @TAB you don't need to be sorry. It's kind. 

 

@Appleblossom @Historylover roomie,

 

I don't like airing my dirty laundry - I have no idea what that phrase means ... I don't like having problems for people to read, esp. On site where we all have our own specific crisis occurring. I like to be uplifting, & give others positive energy - it helps me too. And I am an overthinker! Simple, reminders are good for me. 

 

Anyway, I was watching this SANE video & reading about symptoms of feeling suicidal,

 

https://betteroffwithyou.org.au/feeling-like-a-burden

 

I am better educated. Difficult to read, that this feeling of 'being a burden' & not wanting to ask for help, not feeling deserved of it - is actually part of symptoms. It makes me a little sad to see the reality of what I'm experiencing.

 

I literally have all of these:

 

  • .Needing support to manage physical or mental health issues
  • .Depending on others for emotional or financial support
  • .Being negative or depressed around others
  • .Letting people down or bringing shame on others
  • Relapsing into addiction or negative behaviours.

I feel,  less of a burden, now I know this is common, normal part of the emotional response.

 

I hope you feel stronger, & better very soon @Historylover 

 

Sorry, if I didn't answer any of you directly. Of course you should feel ok about your music preferences Apple. It's difficult to not want to be accepted. I don't want to be alone. I can feel very odd, & weird - after watching video, I think it's lots to do with my mental health. Seeing other people enjoying, & coping with life, doing normal life things - I feel isolated, cause my brain doesn't function like this. I have to put on act & pretend I am social & keep up appearances. 

 

Seeing & speaking with people who are able to work, maybe full time or study, or raise a family...it's the worst, feeling like I'm so wildly different than what society expects of me. Then, I can remind myself, - I'm not alone ... At all. There are lots of us that feel EXACTLY this way. We don't see each other - cause we are hiding, away from the world. All we see, out in the world, are the functioning people. It's bittersweet. Leaving the house is good for me, refreshing &.   it hurts like hell.

 

 

I have appts later in the week. I don't have anything tomorrow. It scares me. I have been ruminating these last few hours, what is I could possibly do. There is nothing coming to mind.

 

I have thought of a phonecall I need to make re: payment I'm possibly eligible for. Ok.💜

 

 

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@StanD Shame had silenced me for 40 years.  So I decided to air dirty laundry so to speak ... in order to come to terms with ALL my experiences.  Big part of my problem was knowing which things were alright to mention and which not ,  then reflecting, on the various social feedback I have had, and a bit disgusted, with the lack of reciprocity I experienced. So now, I am out there LOUD and PROUD a lot more, but sometimes stooped and shakey and vulnerable like today ... when I was getting flat tyre dealt with.  Also a drama on the tmrw list.

 

I do not like to feel like a burden either, put work in, and try and be positive and uplifting, but without some weight of reality or truth included ... it can get a little fake or disconnected, hype veering on toxic positivity... anyway that is the way I see it.  I also know everyone has dirty laundry and am getting tired of pretending they dont, and oh ... maybe my laundry is not that dirty.

 

Little plans for getting the jobs that need to be done ... seem the best way to go.

 

Take care

Apple

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Zepparella at the Ogden Amphitheater, Ogden, Utah, September 8, 2012. They shared the stage with The Iron Maidens, and Hell's Belles. www.zepparella.com

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Ooooooh..... Wow @Appleblossom ....

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Hope I did not upset you @StanD Just had so much shame from early childhood with family mental health diagnosis.  Reframing my story now without using pathologising words as much as possible.

 

Take Care

Apple

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I don't think you upset me @Appleblossom 

 

Thankyou for talking with me. Giving me your time. And all the others. It is precious. And...I think... Even tho, you... & others are not my 'friends' in traditional way I'm used to, you are. I say this because, - it's so tiny ... a support, a warm comment ... In this world of mine ... Where at times, I'm disconnected, hopeless, .... These 'tiny' gestures, it's all I have - at times.

 

I hope you all know that. I hope you all realise, the words we write, they are not nothing - they are lifelines, from friendly people, who care. 

 

I am maybe the saddest..... I'm not the only one that secretly clings to the words of a stranger ...a history... Love .... Connection.

 

@nervouswreck thankyou. I did live longer.

 

Apple I appreciate you understanding the language we are guided to use. "Safe" is a trigger for me. I don't mind if I'm told 'you are safe now' I hate being forced to agree. 

 

Maybe @moderator can suggest alternatives. I like the concept of 'code' to let others know we have no direct intention of harming ourselves. That is good, comforting practice.

 

I will perk up. Waking up today ... Getting out of bed ... Was really hard. I did it.

 

The cats are here purring & being silly, attempting to prey on birds out the window. They want there breakfast. I can't. ..... Of course, I will ... When I can.

 

Expressing Gratitude to y'all & I'm going to find a happier picture to brighten this post & 'end' on happy note 🎵. It's the weekend. Let's have a beautiful, calm, find sustenance, substance & lots of self care ❤️

 

@Shaz51 @Appleblossom @TAB hello @Historylover - I know you said you are sick, hope you are getting better, & please reply at your leisure, or not😊 @tyme @hanami @SmilingGecko & all x 

 

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108 Funny Quotes 

 

I love these types of things. xx 

 

@StuF @Judi9877 @Former-Member @TAB @greenpea @Shaz51 @tyme @Kyle1 @RGB @Loz_3647

@Meowmy @wordman @hanami @Appleblossom @Historylover @SmilingGecko & all

 

Sorry if I forgot to tag you❤️mate x

 

 

 

 

 

"It’s okay to look at the past and the future. Just don’t stare."

By Lisa Lieberman-W ang — 

 

1. "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” — Thomas Edison

 

2. "Be happy, it drives people crazy." — Paulo Coelho

 

3. “Bad decisions make good stories.” — Ellis Vidler

 

4. “Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished— If you’re alive it isn’t.” — Richard Bach

 

 

5. "Aspire to inspire before we expire." — Eugene Bell Jr.

 

6. “The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.” — Andy Rooney

 

7. “The surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that it has never tried to contact us.” — Bill Watterson

 

8. "Hating people is like burning down your own home to get rid of a rat." — Harry Emerson Fosdick

 

 

9. “Stories of imagination tend to upset those without one.” — Terry Pratchett

 

10. "Awesome things will happen today if you choose not to be a miserable cow."

 

11. “The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it.” — Terry Pratchett

 

12. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing — that’s why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar

 

13. “To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone, and a funny bone.” — Reba McEntire

 

 

14. “See the world like a big wardrobe. Everybody has his own costume. There is only one that fits you perfectly.” — George Harris

 

15. “Never let your sense of morals prevent you from doing what is right.” — Isaac Asimov

 

16. “Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.” — Oscar Wilde

 

17. "Always laugh when you can, it is cheap medicine." — Lord Byron

 

18. "Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, ‘I’m not going to make it’, but you laugh inside remembering all the times you’ve felt that way." — Charles Bukowski. @TAB haha (roomie)

 

 

19. "Anyone who takes himself too seriously always runs the risk of looking ridiculous; anyone who can consistently laugh at himself does not." — Vaclav Havel

 

20. “People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” — A.A. Milne, "Winnie the Pooh"

 

21. “You can’t have everything. Where would you put it?” — Steven Wright

 

 

22. “A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.”

 

23. “By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work twelve hours a day.” — Robert Frost

 

24. “I am so clever that sometimes I don’t understand a single word of what I am saying.” — Oscar Wilde @StanD 

 

25. "If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a room with a mosquito." — African proverb quoted by the Dalai Lama

 

 

26. “Opportunity does not knock, it presents itself when you beat down the door.” — Kyle Chandler

 

27. “It takes less time to do things right than to explain why you did it wrong.” — Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

28.“I cannot afford to waste my time making money.” — Louis Agassiz

 

29. “When you do not know what you are doing and what you are doing is the best — that is inspiration.” — Robert Bresson

 

30. "When life brings big winds of change that almost blow you over, close your eyes, hang on tight, and believe." — Lisa Lieberman-W ang

 

 

31. "Ki ll them with success and bury them with a smile."

 

32. “A mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it is not open.” — Frank Zappa

 

33. “Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could.” — Charles J. Sykes

 

 

34. “Even a stopped clock is right twice every day. After some years, it can boast of a long series of successes.” — Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach

 

35. “Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance, or a stranger.” — Franklin P. Jones

 

36. “To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.” — Steven Wright

 

37. “If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign?” — Albert Einstein

 

 

38. “In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later.” — Harold Geneen

 

39. "If you let your head get too big, it’ll break your neck." — Elvis Presley

 

40. “Don’t let schooling interfere with your education.” — Mark Twain

 

41. “All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.” — Mark Twain

 

42."Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious." — Og Mandino

 

 

43. “There’s power in looking silly and not caring that you do.” — Amy Poehler

 

44. "The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs…one step at a time." —Joe Girard

 

Inspirational Quotes from Funny Movies

45. “I am an early bird and a night owl… so I am wise and I have worms.” — Michael Scott, “The Office”

 

 

46. “The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?” — Captain Jack Sparrow

 

47. “Working hard is important. But there is something that matters more, believing yourself.” — Harry Potter

 

48. “If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a ball.” — Patches O’Houlihan

 

49. “A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.” — Willy Wonka

 

50. “Do or do not. There is no try. “ — Yoda, “Star Wars”

 

51. “I know worrying works, because none of the stuff I worried about ever happened.” — Will Rogers

 

 

52. “oh, yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it or learn from it.” — Rafiki, “the Lion King”

 

53. “After a while, you learn to ignore the names people call you and just trust who you are.” — Shrek

 

54. “There comes a day when you’re gonna look around and realize happiness is where you are.’ — Chief Tui, “Moana”

 

55. “Our fate lives within us. You only have to be brave enough to see it.” — Merida, “Brave”

 

56.“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.” — Will Rogers

 

 

 

Funny Inspirational Life Quotes

57. "Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive." — Elbert Hubbard

 

58. “When life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade and then try to find someone whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.” — Ron White

 

 

59. “When life gives you lemons, squirt someone in the eye.” — Cathy Guisewite

 

60.“Life is too short to be serious all the time. So, if you can’t laugh at yourself, call me… I’ll laugh at you.”

 

61. “A bank is a place that will lend you money if you can prove that you don’t need it.” — Bob Hope

 

62. “Life is like a sewer… what you get out of it depends on what you put into it.” — Tom Lehrer

 

63. “Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home.” — Phyllis Diller

 

 

64. "It’s okay to look at the past and the future. Just don’t stare." — Benjamin Dover

 

65. “A clear conscience is a sure sign of a bad memory.” — Mark Twain

 

66. “I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.” — Lily Tomlin

 

67. “When tempted to fight fire with fire, remember that the Fire Department usually uses water.”

 

68. “Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget tossing in the lifeboats.” — Voltaire

 

69. "Some people are like clouds: when they disappear, it’s a beautiful day."

 

 

70. “You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.” — Sam Levenson

 

71. "You must pay for your sins. If you have already paid, please ignore this notice." — Sam Levenson

 

72. “If you’re going to tell people the truth, be funny or they’ll ki ll you.” — Billy Wilder

 

 

73. “I was thinking about how people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older; then it dawned on me — they’re cramming for their final exam.” — George Carlin

 

74. “We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public.” — Bryan White

 

75. “I’m in shape. Round is a shape.” — George Carlin

 

76. “You’re only given a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.” — Robin Williams

 

77. “If you dig a grave for others you may fall into it yourself.” — Irish Proverbs

 

 

78. "When life puts you in a tough situation, don’t say 'Why me?', say 'Try me'."

 

79. “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.” — William James

 

80. “If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” — Yogi Berra

 

81. “The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.” — Mark Twain

 

82. "We make mistakes because life doesn’t come with instructions."

 

 

83. “Life is like photography. You need the negatives to develop.”

 

 

84. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anaïs Nin

 

85. “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” — George Burns

 

 

86. “If you don’t have wrinkles, you haven’t laughed enough.” — Phyllis Diller

 

87. "You can’t always control who walks into your life, but you can control which window you throw them out."

 

 

 

Funny Inspirational Quotes for Women

88. "Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up." — Ann Bradford

 

 

89. “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” — Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

 

90. "I have to be successful because I like expensive things."

 

91. “I used to think I was indecisive, but now I’m not so sure.” 🙃

 

92. “Always remember that you are unique — just like everybody else.”

 

93. “My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far I’ve finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already.” — Dave Barry

 

94. “Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever you were gonna do anyway.“ — Robert Downey Jr.

 

 

95. “Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia.” — Charles Schulz

 

96. "Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway." — Eleanor Roosevelt

 

97. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” — Dr. Seuss

 

98. “Haters are just confused admirers because they can’t figure out the reason why everyone loves you.” — Jeffree Star

 

99. “Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.” — Marilyn Monroe

 

 

100. “The question isn’t who is going to let me, it’s who is going to stop me.” — Ayn Rand

 

101. “A man who correctly guesses a woman’s age may be smart, but he’s not very bright.” — Lucille Ball

 

102. “Life isn’t finding shelter in the storm. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.” — Sherrilyn Kenyon

 

103. “Women will never be as successful as men because they have no wives to advise them.” — D ick Van Dyke

 

104. “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” — Les Brown

 

 

105. "You grow up the day you have your first real laugh — at yourself." — Ethel Barrymore

 

106. “Never follow anyone else’s path, unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost.” — Ellen DeGeneres

 

107. “If you want something said, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman.” — Margaret Thatcher

 

 

108. "Be that kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor every morning, the devil says, 'Oh crap she’s up'."

 

 

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I learnt long ago, @StanD, that we never really know what others are going through. I have reasoned that that may be one of the reasons that cliques become established. If they band together and exclude someone (especially the new person), at least they can feel that they belong, even if it costs them their true selves. Anyway, I'm ruminating.

 

I was thinking in past days, that although my situation is dire, I have made the best of it and it is a good life. I would like others to share it with, but finding people I have enough in common with is very difficult. I want to add to what I have, not detract from it.

 

I hope you're doing alright, @StanD