Good Morning!

[Glisten]

@avant-garde sorry, I shall clarify.

Because you responded with a single word, I turned it into a fictitious suburb.

I thought you were contributing to the joke by saying Anonymity is in Arizona.

And I won’t be doing that again.

[avant-garde]

@Glisten 

It was longer, it was that I get very anxious and on edge in relation to my location and when it became too big a thing for me to handle that I felt it being broadcast I removed all traces of it before it went further.

I've applied for protection from police 3 times and it's denied, so it's on me to protect my identity, to keep me safe.

I have family and abusers all over this country and so I am very careful and quite protective of everything that could give them a clue.

[Glisten]

@avant-garde thank you for explaining. You have very right not to explain yourself, and I totally support that.

[Historylover]

One foot after the other, @Judi9877. Make the most of your day.

[Ru-bee]

Good morning @Glisten I just wanted to let you know that I made an edit to your post to make your location a bit more general. @avant-garde I also really appreciate you being open about this and why anonymity is particularly important to you.

Anonymity is a really important function of the forums as it keeps us all safe and creates a unique opportunity for many to share and be more open than we might otherwise be. It's completely natural to want to share more personal details with one another when we start to form connections, and some things might seem harmless and it might be on its own, but when combined with the rest of the content and tidbits we share on here it could start to form more of a clear picture. 

I don't say any of this to discourage anyone from sharing, we're always here as a back-up if this stuff slips a member's mind and I thought with this conversation it was a good reminder 😊

[Oaktree]

@Ru-bee 

It seems that over time, people get enough clues to track us down. Little bits and pieces of our lives come out and once put together can become a clearer picture as you say.

[avant-garde]

I have my usual community group this morning and I'm really nervous to go...

Last week something happened... there's an older guy there who likes wearing skirts... but his behaviour is very... well... old school...

Nobody likes talking to him and he's very narrow minded in his take on Christianity... that eunuchs and concubines have their place... that they're there by choice... his views make me feel sick...

Well last week after I shut him down he decided to assert his dominance... he came up behind me... leaned over me... arms on the sides of the chair I was sitting on... talking to the older lady next to me... I said "excuse me" quietly... shoved the chair back into his groin... and ran away into the bathroom and started silently panicking...

I then went back and just did dishes... then went home and had a seizure... ending up in hospital...

[Snowie]

Hi @Judi9877 

Thanks for including me in your updates. I hope things can be worked out soon.

Hoping today is going ok for you.

[PeppyPatti]

@Judi9877 

I'm reading your message - it's incredibly unfair what has been happening to you. 

You write - "...... will be a very costly exercise for the landlord involved, such as having to pay...... "

But we both know - similar to everyone else here - that the law is very unfair. 

I love how you are still focusing on ' giving back," to the community via knitting for the less fortunate. My budgeting is constantly in a flummox - from living  on very little. 

But I have this book by Scott Pape who writes about giving a little back to people. My ' giving back,' is I give my ex husband a small amount of money to buy his jewellery teacher  a cuppa every week. My partner Mr Rocker helps him out as well. 

We have both had him in our lives for many years as he was highschool  friends with us. 

[PeppyPatti]

It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about going to your community group after what happened.It sounds like a traumatic experience and it's completely normal to feel scared and unsure about returning.
Here are some things you might consider:
Talk to someone you trust: Share what happened with a friend, family member, therapist, or counselor. Talking about it can help you process your feelings ?
* Consider avoiding the person: If possible, try to stay away from the person who made you uncomfortable. 
* Set boundaries: If you do interact with the person, set clear boundaries. Let them know what behavior is and is not acceptable.
* Take care of yourself
If you decide to go to the community group, here are some tips:
* Go with a friend or family member: Having someone with you can help you feel more comfortable and safe.
Is this something you will do ?