Hello @Historylover I am really sorry you are going through so much trauma given your ailing health situation. It would be good if you could somehow remove these people from your life and allow yourself to heal. I have nothing to do with people who are into causing engregious harm to others.
I've had to put up with plenty of discrimination over the course of my life given my diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder. I can say it attracts bigotry and in many cases you can't hold those people accountable for their actions and their desire to mess with your life due to your disability.
Is there any way you can disengage and just sever the connection? What is stopping you from not being at the receiving end of their abuse? Are you able to cut the tie and figuratively walk away? I don't know the facts about your situation so its hard to make suggestions like this online but if you are dealing with a non-congenial situation I believe you have three options - accept the status quo, change the status quo or to leave. I hope this is not demoralising to you but that is the rule of thumb I live my life by.
The more you tune into it the more it will intensify. I've had problems with my next door neighbours for instance spreading gossip, hate and causing me harm. The street is a small court and the houses are crammed in together so theres little privacy for me.
I have nothing to do with them anymore and don't engage. I could not take them to court for the problems they caused me due to their unrealistic self entitlements to do as they please and skip the repurcusions of their behaviour. I decided my best choice was to unfortunately stay stuck living next door to them and just ignore them and get on with things in my on life. That was the only strategy I had and it worked. They can sense you don't want anything to do with them and that you don't care and the abuse tends to stop. I would not give your abusers air. My situation I could not escape from so that was my only option. They spread the violence up and down the street while the police did nothing. This is common in many neighborhood settings where there is a mentally ill resident having to put up with discrimination.
As for my fatigue I only got CFS after a bout of flu 20 years ago. Prior to that was reasonably physically fit and used to walk, cycle, swim and do aerobics. My health situation was dire after being put on a psych med which rendered me bedridden for approximately 8 years. I was frail for that length of time and had to find ways to heal my body. I could not afford healers so did it all myself via "Curezone" on the internet. It was an excellent decision and I rebuilt my body after years of coarse psychiatric treatment which ruined my health and left me lifeless.
With your family I would just walk away. My brother has a violent temperament so I restrict what contact I have with him. He lives in another state to me and sees no value in family. Every time I have spoken to him it winds up in abuse. Its not a healthy dynamic so I don't really talk to him. I still care about him but its just not workable. I have not seen him in 30 years.
I hope this makes you feel less alone in your efforts and offers you some sense of solidarity. I don't like to paint a rosy picture on forums. I believe in honest disclosure so folk feel like they are part of the same inherent struggle.
