@Shaz51 @Jynx @tyme @Healandlove so the Pres of the Women’s Shed has been aggravating me for about 6 months.
None of it is her fault. She is 20 years older than me, married well and wanted for nothing.
But she started treating me like I was her servant. “Can you do this for me”, everytime I was there. Because I seem capable.
But I was there for me.
I don’t mind pointing someone in the right direction, but do your own leg work.
I could send her a list of things that I was committed to, It didn’t matter.
Now she wants me to do their funding application. If two people can’t write a letter requesting funding, then I know, I’m the sucker expected to write it.
@Glisten Heck yes, I am SO HERE for this kind of self-empowerment!!
Also, I love me a bit of gallows humour too!! @ENKELI
Thought occurred 🤔 is gallows humour always an attempt to downplay the situation? I've definitely seen it called an unhealthy coping tool. But I think I disagree... Laughing is an emotional expression, no? And like, I read that our humour is one of the ways we cope with distress and absurdity - think of a baby being thrown and caught by a parent. In that small moment in the air, the baby would initially be terrified, but when they're safely caught, it is massive relief for their survival system and that comes out as laughter! I genuinely think that like any coping tool, it is helpful when used in a balanced/moderated way, and becomes unhealthy if we become over-reliant on it or use it as a way to avoid our emotions rather than express them.
Okay, ramble doneski!! 😝
Aww @ENKELI rejection HURTS babe, especially when it's after we decided to be open again - woulda been like getting hit with all the childhood pain all over again hey.
@ENKELI wrote:
I've always known that my brother was mums' favourite child despite him being an absolute horror. She's often been very critical of me but I have never heard her criticise my bro.
Growing up in his shadow was pretty awful, plus the feelings of rejection.
Ooh, I literally was reading about the 'fav child' in this book I'm delving into - cannot recommend it enough, even if it is an emotionally heavy read!! But yeah, not sure if your parents were 'emotionally immature' but if you reckon so, this might be relevant:
So if you WEREN'T the favourite, it's likely because you were more emotionally mature than your parent/s could deal with! But please correct me if I'm barking up the wrong book 😋
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