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[Shaz51]

hello @11235812 😎

[Jynx]

Haha aww @ENKELI good to know if I ever need to give a CEO a shakedown, I can enlist your expertise!! Teehee

Oh you poor dear, I am really sorry to read how much you've been shut down in the past for venting! And getting 'one-upped' is never fun either!! I think sometimes what people intend when they tell their own story is to sort of say, 'hey, I know how you feel, here's an example of a time when I have felt similarly'. And like, if done in a skillfull way, where in the end they ensure they're bringing the topic back around to the person they're supporting, it can feel super validating! But if instead they're basically just using their story as a means of directing the spotlight back onto their own issues, it feels like being silenced, and that is immensely painful. 

It can also make it harder to feel safe to open up, even in other spaces like this one where logically you know that the forums fam isn't gonna be judgey or shut you down... buuuut our feeling bodies tend to get their way more than our logic brain does, hey! Could potentially be an opportunity to practice pushing past that discomfort though, like they say 'all progress takes place outside of the comfort zone'!

Your crazy cat lady friend, is she the sort open to dialogues about the state of the relationship? Just a check in or something like 'Hey, I realise it might have hurt your feelings to be knocked back, but I want you to know I still value our friendship and I'm willing to put the work in to keep it going if you are.' 

Hope your Monday has been unfolding gently darlin!! 

[11235812]

Hello @Shaz51, 
How are you?
It seems like ages ago we last spoke. It actually was. 
I hope you are well.

[Jynx]

Hiya @PeppyPatti @Shaz51 @Spirit_Healer @11235812 @ArraDreaming @Judi9877 @hotmess and anyone else floating about!! Hope we're all having a mellow Monday 😋

[ArraDreaming]

Hey @Jynx
Just got home from work, still in the driveway nobody has spotted me yet
got blasted at work today… admin lady not happy with me at all
Whoopsy
Lost both my work key and ID somewhere… I have no idea where…

[Shaz51]

OK here @11235812 

How has your day been 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Jynx , how are you ☺️ 

Going OK here 

Food shopping today 

And dentist for Mr shaz 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Calmerkoala 😊

[11235812]

Hi @Jynx, @Oaktree, @ArraDreaming, @Shaz51, @Spirit_Healer, @PeppyPatti, @Judi9877 and @hotmess 

I hope you are all well.
I  applied for 2 jobs and I am now readying myself for tonights Support Group. Looking forward to connecting with more travellers on this amazing path.

@ArraDreaming I am sorry you had a challenging day. It's so unnecessary. The impact of an ill-considered delivery from a colleague like you experienced today can be so confronting and unsettling.
@#$% happens. I hope you have a more relaxed evening and tomorrow is easier to navigate. I hope they turn up.

@Shaz51 hello, Im good thanks. Busy day as above. I still struggle to go to the dentist. You are much braver than I. I hope it's not uncomfortable. 

Thank you.

[Judi9877]

Hello @Jynx @Shaz51 @Oaktree @ArraDreaming @11235812 @ENKELI @tyme @rav3n and all forumites here. I hope your day has gone well for you.

@Jynx Thanks for the tag! Much appreciated!

As for me, my Monday has been crap in regards to what’s happened to me and my housemate. We had a VCAT hearing this morning which went okay- lost the bond but was allowed to stay until the 13/12/2024 when we were meant to move into our new property. Fast forward 4 hours and the new property manager sent an email cancelling the lease on behalf of the owners situation changing. This is despite us signing a new lease with them last week and paying both the bond and month in advance up front as required under the laws here in Victoria. My housemate has called consumer affairs and spoke to her lawyer and there’s a possibility that the owners may have to continue with our lease as we signed a contract with them. My housemate is following this up and have got the relevant legislation in which to take the owners to VCAT - she’s just got to get this worded correctly before sending it to the new property manager and the owners and discussing it with them. All I know is my housing situation is in free fall right now and I hate it! The only thing that is keeping me sane is my knitting - currently knitting a kids jumper for charity- and watching the cricket on TV even if Australia is losing to India unfortunately. The 1 thing that is certain is I’m definitely going to need my cruise holiday in June next year to escape this madness and confusion!

Enjoy the rest of Monday and take care.

Judi9877☺️🍀