~ The Toolshed ~

[Glisten]

@Former-Member that is horrible not feeling safe. Who’s causing you grief? I am sure nobody will miss them. I’ve got rabbit holes to fill. They run very deep 🤫

 

[Shaz51]

aww whats wrong my awesome friend @Former-Member , here for you , what happened

@Glisten , @tyme , @Ru-bee , @rav3n 

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Glisten @Shaz51 sorry but I can't say anything on here. 

[Jynx]

@Former-Member 🥺

🫂🫂🫂

You can already see how much you'd be missed darlin!! I hope that is a comfort, regardless of what you decide to do. We absolutely respect and support your decision whatever it may be, as safety is paramount!! And yeah like, let us know if there's anything we can do to support you to feel safer here 😊

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Jynx . I don't know what to do. 

[Jynx]

@Former-Member maybe no decision can be made just yet? Like if the path isn't yet clear to you, it could be that more info is needed or something, and you may have to just sit in the uncertainty (I know, yuck) until next steps become apparent? 

[Former-Member]

 

 

 

@Jynx @Shaz51 @Glisten @tyme @Ru-bee @rav3n @Oaktree @avant-garde @PeppyPatti @MJG017 

[Shaz51]

Thank you @Former-Member 

These are great ❤️❤️

[Glisten]

@Former-Member  I agree with what @Jynx said. Sometimes things resolve themselves.

Having said that, personally there have been important things that I needed to address and attend too that I have completely ignored and avoided, because I am so terrified of making a mistake.

In the 13 year relationship coercive control DV, everything was my fault all the time. Even my adult children victim blamed me.

[Former-Member]

@Glisten at the moment I'm just sitting with it and laying low. 

That fear of making the wrong decision is strong. I don't want to rush into anything but I also have to make a choice. 

I know your pain, I was in a relationship like that for almost 10 years. It does so much damage to how you see yourself and your decision making ability.