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10 Jun 2024 06:46 PM
10 Jun 2024 06:46 PM
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Step by logical step.
haha women can have logic sometimes when not eternally pressured to forgive and self sacrifice
I left over 20 years ago @Alice10
Nup no other relationship but not saying never
Good luck
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10 Jun 2024 07:08 PM
10 Jun 2024 07:08 PM
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@Appleblossom I like what you said there.
“when not eternally pressured to forgive and self sacrifice”.
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10 Jun 2024 09:23 PM
10 Jun 2024 09:23 PM
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@Glisten you're words are perfect. They are like poetry. If you don't write poetry, I'd encourage you to.
I'm in a situation that changes constantly. But I'm using a few strategies, like "lying" to keep myself safe emotionally and spiritually. I don't feel guilty anymore which is a big step for me. In fact, I'm planning things. I'm viewing a property next week. I'm spending three nights with family, five hours away, soon, as well....
I'm too precious to mess up my life by purposely staying. Please don't grieve for him. Please welcome the part of yourself that is "in love" with your own self and well being. Anyway, your words really struck me. I wasn't going to log on tonight. Thanks for your post. 💕❤️😊
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10 Jun 2024 09:30 PM
10 Jun 2024 09:30 PM
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@Appleblossom Hey thanks for taking the time to write a msg. Thanks for tagging me too. I get that you're courageous and it's inspiring. Thanx again. 💕❤️😊
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10 Jun 2024 09:45 PM
10 Jun 2024 09:45 PM
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@Alice10 you do anything you need to do, to stay safe. That’s all that matters.
Life is lived, not survived in misery.
You are an inspiration to me.
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15 Jun 2024 03:32 PM
15 Jun 2024 03:32 PM
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@PinkFlamingo @Jynx @Glisten @Alonely @Shaz51 @Snowie @Dimity @NatureLover @_PixieSolstice_ @Captain24 @Bow @creative_writer @Appleblossom @tyme @Alice10
Hmmm, this is tricky, in a recent youtube video Dr Ramani said "I dont care, all abusers are narcissists" I agree with her.
Yep, we all turn into Philosophers in the end, the antidote to moral depravity of abuse is moral clarity:
They call them emotional vampires for a reason:
Motivated by primitive drives, they are wired to exploit all they come into contact with:
Yep, tolerance is finite..
I can relate, slow it down, easy does it..
theyre assholes
Surround yourself with goodness, good people
Yep
Stalking or even keeping tabs on people is about power and control, power is a primitive drive
Yeh i felt this
...and when you realise this put some boundaries in place to protect yourself...
...and finally..(He means resistance against evil....)
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15 Jun 2024 04:01 PM
15 Jun 2024 04:01 PM
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@scruffypuffball Anyone vulnerable is a target for predatory behaviour.
Self imposed Boundaries are liberating. Self imposed Boundaries give you permission to do what is best for you.
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19 Jun 2024 06:30 AM
19 Jun 2024 06:30 AM
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Thanks for the amazing toolshed post. I read it. 😊
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19 Jun 2024 07:02 AM
19 Jun 2024 07:02 AM
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@Alice10 The thing that binds survivors of this kind of violence is that it is the same loop, everytime. Until the final discard.
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25 Jun 2024 05:07 PM
25 Jun 2024 05:07 PM
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@Glisten @scruffypuffball @creative_writer @Alonely @Shaz51 @Snowie @Dimity @NatureLover @_PixieSolstice_ @Captain24 @Bow @creative_writer @Appleblossom @tyme @Alice10 @TAB @Ru-bee
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