Hi @utopia
Yes, at 42 you think we would of learned something. Your right, change there is unlikely. A bit miserable really. In my mind if we are treating such significant caring people in our lives with so much disrespect - true love and respect won't come our way. That's how I believe it works - your sister has much to learn.
Your mum does have a beautiful, caring daughter in you and that would offer her so much comfort. It's interesting to read that we can be raised the same, but those different choices we make along the way really defines who we are. To respect or not to respect - makes a huge different with inner growth. And your mum would be proud of you.
Arhh your poor neighbour! I am proud of you also, the way you looked out for this poor, vulnerable elderly lady! Thank goodness for neighbours like you! Pity the elderly lady does not put an AVO against the abuser - amazing what some of us put up with from those we love. If it were me he would not get a cent and be out on his ear. I think after all these years of copping disrespect there comes a point where we reach "enough is enough". That's me anyway.
You are so right @utopia I do become exhausted. I do experience a real second wind that kicks in and I do carry on with gusto but at moments like this I feel so hurt and low. Wondering why I bother as she makes me feel like every act of love, support and effort was for nought. Leaving me feeling irrelevant. I couldn't have loved more or tried harder I swear. So I don't think this relationship with her staying here is doing either of us any good in reality. I really hope she is not just all talk but does move. We all need change for the positive and to move on. She did ask if I would visit her when she does move and I would. When she was out of home before she appreciated us more and we were much closer. She uses and abuses us now.
I was glad to read your son was generally uneffected by the yelling neighbour. It sounds like he has good friends as well as a good mum - smart boy making smart choices. He will do well in life. My daughter's downfall was wholly due to the poor choice in friends, lifestyle and partners that she has made over the years - as she rejected the good and sincere ones and our wise advice that sought her welfare, and still does. I can only hope she sees the light here one day before it's too late.
I am so glad you shared your stories about your mum and neighbour - I am sad about what they go through but it does remind me that others out there are also having to endure being treated with disrespect and treated less than they deserve. Puts my own life in perspective. Thank you @utopia - I do like your down to earth personality - open and honest like mine. Warm hugs xx
