26-12-2021 06:17 PM
26-12-2021 06:17 PM
I'm having one of those days where I feel dreary, miserable, and need a distraction to escape the depresssion and grief for a while. So I figure I'd start with relaxation strategies:
Showering and washing my hair several times until it feels so nice to the touch and it couldn't be more clean. Secondly, a good book. Whether you're into Si-fi or non-fictioneaI like to curl up for hours until I feel better. But today is one of those days where no matter what, I can't concentrate on one single task for long periods of time. I even had to make two counselling phone calls and will make another one soon.
If any of you have had a similar experience, what is your coping method? Any strategies or tips for self-care? Or distractions, what do you guys do to distract yourselves when you can't concentrate properly or think straight? I hope everyone had a great Christmas! Mine was spent having a little rest and a mental health holiday but I came home this morning. I'm still exhausted but doing all right and am safe!!! Who dooesn't like to feel safe? I'm relaxing in my room as I type this, but will soon make an attempt at eating soup. I will come back on here after that. All of your posts and comments are very helpful thank you! Love these forums and the support from you guys! Big hugs to you all!
26-12-2021 06:25 PM
26-12-2021 06:25 PM
Hi @Former-Member
oh boy, am I feeling the same today.
I managed to get myself on track yesterday to the point that I was feeling so happy in the evening, I went to see some christmas lights and watched the lightning build up to (only a bit of) rain and I even listened to a couple of songs and danced! That was a real high point and I reminded myself that these feelings are not forever.... However, today it is like I am at the bottom again and cannot get myself up from tearing up.
I would love to have those good feelings back, and at this point just the feeling of peace and calm and contempt. That is all I want.
I did go for a walk this morning and that usually helps, but not so much today. I will force myself to get on the yoga mat and try some really light stretches. But following for everyone's comments ❤️
I wish I could be more positive but just know, you are not alone. I will be here to listen
26-12-2021 07:16 PM
26-12-2021 07:16 PM
Hey @Former-Member I always found it near to impossible to concentrate on anything when I felt the same way. Sometimes a nice long bubble bath would help and other times cuddling with my fur babies - but there were also those times that I just had to get through. I am been extremely fortunate to have the support/distraction from many of our members here when I have not been able to deal with life myself. That has been a life saver on many occasions - literally not metaphorically. Part of that is knowing that others get what is happening for us and part is knowing we have a soft place to land here in the forums - both have been immeasurable in helping me get through such tough times.
One member often engaged me in crosswords - it would sometimes take me some time to get the right word but it was always a great distraction. Another great distraction was writing - again, not always easy or successful but putting my thoughts (as they were) onto the page took time and allowed me to get out what I needed - especially if I could not write it here on the forums. I could never read for long as I would forget what I had read and where I was up to - so writing became my thing ...it did not need to be in any logical order nor really make sense but the connection between brain and hand was distracting in itself.
Fur baby love has always been high on the distraction (and comfort) list. Their unconditional love has always given me a moment of peace (even small) for a time. I also had a teddy bear given to me by my psych that I would take to sessions and then home again with me. When I did not have my fur babies around, I had the teddy bear ...a substitute fur baby that I could cuddle also.
26-12-2021 09:10 PM
26-12-2021 09:10 PM
Hi @Former-Member
I really like how you've started this new discussion thread focusing on Distraction Strategies. Well done and thank you very much for taking the initiative to start this👍🏻⭐️! I've often wondered what different people with mental health do on the forums to distract themselves when they aren't coping or are having a tough time with life so now there's a place where people can list their strategies for people like me to read and look at trying if they need or want to. Thanks very much!
For me, some of the things I do to distract myself when things get tough are:
- Look at Facebook and see what other people are doing in their lives. This often gives me ideas depending on what groups or pages come up in my feed like knitting or cross stitch or crochet ideas for example or even laughing at funny memes which I like looking at!
- Drawing or colouring in pictures or abstract designs that I create using textas, pencils and crayons. I found drawing to be particularly useful to me when I was in hospital in September and was trying to avoid checking my emails in case I received bad news. I still like drawing and have a display book of things I've drawn and I write notes on the back of what I've drawn about why I drew that picture and how I was feeling snd thinking at the time.
- Knitting! I find knitting beanies to be very therapeutic as I can be very creative in the choice of colours of yarn chosen and I donate the beanies to charity which they really appreciate, especially at winter time when they are needed in a major way! I also knit blankets and at the moment, baby jumpers for charity and a new jumper for myself that I started yesterday as a Christmas present to myself!
- Writing and Journaling. I find writing things down to be very therapeutic and I like how I can get things out on paper and feel like the problem isn't as bad I made it out to be when I read over it later on. I found writing to be very helpful to me, my psychologist and others involved in my care back in August and September when I experienced a psychosis episode and had a hospital admission because of it as my psychologist was able to live through the psychotic episode as I wrote down what was happening to me as I went through it which he found to be really helpful when treating me. I did read over those journal entries and I was pleasantly surprised about how I survived the episode and what strategies I used to get through it when I was at home, in hospital and later on, at PARCS after being discharged from hospital. Other things I like writing about is taking photos or images and writing about them in a descriptive sort of way and maybe even getting creative and placing myself in the image and writing about these in a notebook. I also find emailing my psychologist to be great as well if there's something I need him to know about and later on discuss in our next appointment if relevant.
- Going on the SANE forums. This is a great strategy for me as I can often get help, support and ideas off other forum members to help me with my episodes or at least help them out at times. I also like the social elements of the forums with several discussion threads I follow and comment on a regular basis, such as All Things Sport... , Thumbs up Thursday - Woohoo! Re: Good Morning Daily Achievements!
- Reading books and magazines via my library subscription in electronic form. Also, I notice that when I'm at uni and having to do research, I often find myself getting distracted and lost down the rabbit hole on the research topic and often find myself bookmarking journal articles to read for later on, even if they may not be fully related to my research topic. I particularly like journal articles on mental health and peer work as well as psychology based articles on new treatments and therapies.
- Crochet. I like making crochet blankets using yarn in the form of granny square blanket.
- Cross stitching. This is something I used to love doing but haven't done for a while. I still read cross stitching magazines via the library in electronic form and buy kits every now and then.
- Watching sport on TV. I like watching cricket - Big Bash Twenty 20 style especially- , AFL (Brisbane Lions), NRL (Melbourne Storm) swimming, gymnastics, diving, Winter Olympics and Summer Olympics. Basically, most sports besides golf and boxing.
- Listening and downloading music on my iPhone via Apple Music.
- Going for a drive in my car to a park or the beach to relax
- Going to the library to chill out and knit or read magazines or books
- Sleep or rest on my bed.
- Have a warm shower or relaxing bath
These are some of my strategies. I wonder what other forum members do? I look reading about what others do and maybe even adding them to my list.
Judi9877☺️💐
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26-12-2021 09:37 PM - edited 26-12-2021 09:38 PM
26-12-2021 09:37 PM - edited 26-12-2021 09:38 PM
Hi @Former-Member I'm sorry today has been difficult and I commend you on looking for distractions.
I am a bit the same today after a good day yesterday where I was certainly ditracted by cooking and entertaining for hours and hours.
Today, I have made a big effort to distract myself from eating leftovers all day. I found a little bucket and made some cards with things I want to do...my bucket list. I did a load of washing and then went for a walk managing to go further than I intended. A walk is ok but I liketo have a reason or goal other than that I ate too much yesterday so I've entered a triathlon in February. Now, we can't say on here any distance we exercise but believe me, it's definitely NOT an Olympic distance triathlon. Gd 1 is going in it with me...to ensure I don't drown!
Other things in the bucket list include reading more books this year. I used to read a book a week when catching public transport but with having ECT and a few hospital admissions in the past year and a half my reading has become very scant. I bought myself a book for Christmas and aim to read it this week. I will then frequent the library more often.
Journal....at least weekly. It does help to distract as well as make sense of what is happening around me.
Knitting...finish my unfinished projects.
These are just a few of the things that I hope to do and, in doing them, distraction will also be achieved.
27-12-2021 08:20 AM
27-12-2021 08:20 AM
Hi @Eve7 great post to read Thankyou, Thankyou.👍
27-12-2021 08:32 AM
27-12-2021 08:32 AM
Thankyou @Judi9877 for this post I liked it very much found myself reflect on my own bits and pieces to try and keep my life full
I to Journal/ diary etc but coming into 2022 it's hard to make the big plan with this Covid thing.
I feel impatient with not knowing what's next I am Happy overall by just counting my good things but feel dread when trying to plan 2022 ie no overseas travel again to plan for, so I'm am interested in what everyone does in there lives more so what do we all do with our distractions to keep our lives on track.
Thankyou again for your input your honest input love from Clawde
27-12-2021 10:32 AM
27-12-2021 10:32 AM
I need constant relaxation strategies.....meditation, reading, watching TV, hot showers. Constant therapies.
27-12-2021 11:31 AM
27-12-2021 11:31 AM
I've really enjoyed reading everyone's responses to their own helpful ways of distraction.
For me I spent time in the past making a list of all the things that I have found useful at various stages of my life & will often look over it for in any moment to try see if one or many of them might suit in that particular moment if I can't think of something off the bat.
Some of those things include: Depending on situation or environment I find myself in.
Thanks for the prompt @Former-Member & all the contributions you've all had to this discussion!
27-12-2021 12:18 PM
27-12-2021 12:18 PM
I have just joined. I don't seem to be able to write a post except by writing a reply here. Please can you tell me how to start a discussion or write a post. Thank you.
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