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Coming to terms with reality
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01 Oct 2017 06:42 AM
01 Oct 2017 06:42 AM
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01 Oct 2017 01:25 PM
01 Oct 2017 01:25 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
Touch...N Go
Touch...N Go
Do not linger...
Thats how i do with people @eudemonism. Even with the closest of friends and family members... i meet them just once a month and never get too close with anybody. I feel...this has been my most reliable defense mechanism to armour myself from being discovered or critised or taken advantage of. Pretending i am okay is easier..than having to explain to everyone why i am not.🦄
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01 Oct 2017 06:46 PM
01 Oct 2017 06:46 PM
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There is wisdom in doing one's own thing. @eudemonism Glad you are not too bad, considering ... Socialising has been torture for me too.
I did a bit of my thing today and my son came. We had a picnic and a lovely walk in a local gorge.
For a weird reason I have been caught out with the "open book" or "heart on my sleeve" style. I have been thinking I need to be more guarded, so I will remember that 'Touch and go' phrase. @Adek
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02 Oct 2017 08:09 AM
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02 Oct 2017 10:25 AM
02 Oct 2017 10:25 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
gained it through CBT sessions with my therapist balanced with spiritual enrichment and practices learnt from the scholars i frequented...6 yrs now.
I believe..these 2 contradicting experiences with 2 different spouses was a blessing in disguise that led me into finding my true strength. To me now..every person are like trees in the forest...i see them while trailing past the woods...inhaling the oxygen they emit while trying to understand why each grows the way they are..either tall and strong, creepy, climbing etc..but i know they wont affect me...cuz am in my own journey..towards eternity.
May you find your truest inner strength and live a life full of wonders and discoveries..within and around you..
🌴🌲🌳🌱🌵🌿🍀🍂🍃🦄
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02 Oct 2017 09:55 PM
02 Oct 2017 09:55 PM
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I lived alone for a few years before I married and have been without a partner for 16 years. So I know what it is like to live a lot of the time with myself for company and it often becomes a lot of time in one's head.
@eudemonism This thread has been good in lots of ways. We come from different points of view but the interweaving is helpful ... I think?
There has been more company for me on this forum during the last 2 years than at any time in my life.
I hope @Former-Member is alright.
One marriage was enough for me. Not saying never, but in no rush.
@Adek That is a lovely way of putting it ... we are all on journeys to eternity.
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03 Oct 2017 03:01 PM
03 Oct 2017 03:01 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
@eudemonism @Adek @Appleblossom
interesting that you have been talking about marriages.....relationships
we went to the city for our anniversary...did some lovely things....not having to rush....not having to think about long drive home....nice
yesterday we left motor inn and went straight home...we had planned to do more....I came down with the dreaded virus on the sunday night
have had to postpone heart echo sound due this thursday until next week....that is ok though..just frustrating
I think that you have been talking about trust....that is what I read between the lines...vulnerability
@eudemonism you talk openly about your feelings...experiences....this will help you
I am sorry but I have to get off the computer...really don't feel well....will catch up in a couple of days or when feeling a bit better..thank you all for thinking of me
take care my friends
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