A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

[kenny66]

I have exactly the same issues and problems with the type of abuse. My psych has tried to get the story details out of me but  agrees that this has to come when I want to talk about it.

We also have a very long relationship.

For me personally I believe that finally telling the tale might have variable outcomes and even the psych cant pick what these will be.

He is somewhat hesitant to push the issue knowing my personal circumstances.

I agree that telling the untellable in the right context is the way to go. And I would have thought that the best person to make that judgment is the person with the issues. If I thought I was ready to tell all I would.

[Alessandra1992]

Absolutely true @kenny, on all points....tried telling at the time..fell on deaf ears...but have since met many fellow travellers.. Helps me to make sense that it was never my fault..

[kenny66]

Yes Sandy

It can be very difficult to get over the personal blame game. Realising and accepting that you as the victim never contributes to the abuse is the key. I am not there yet.

kenny

[kristin]

Hey @kenny66 

The blame-game is a huge thing to counter - it becomes ingrained at so many levels it is a long painful process of recognising and countering each part in the long-term.

I found this on a site @Former-Member posted a link to. I thought yourself, @Rick , @Alessandra1992 , @shanc , @Ellie , @Mortiis and others might find it helpful/validating.

Hope for a healing journey endures...

Kindest regards,

Kristin

[kristin]

Hey @Rick 

I don't think I replied to your post about a forum for survivors of CA (rather than CSA). It is a good question and you're right it is needed. I remember going looking after I read your post on the digest (I was struggling with posting at the time I think). I don't recall finding anything. I will ask my Twitter contacts again (I think I turned up a blank then, but it is such a stressful time of year around Xmas that I might have a better chance of finding one now si I have asked again.

Hope you are travelling a bit better too my friend.  & hugs

Hope endures...

Kindest regards, 

Kristin

[PeppiPatty]

Lovely last sentence @kenny66

[kristin]

Hi @Rick 

I wanted to let you know that whilst I was again asking around on Twitter about a more general survivors' forum site I noticed that @Former-Member mentioned one called Fort Refuge tonight. I think it's worth a look, and perhaps she might please tell us how she finds it? I'm guessing it must be ok if she's mentioning it.

Hope, for help and a sense of connection with others, endures...

Kind regards, 

Kristin

[kristin]

Dear @kenny66 

I hope you are travelling well at the moment my friend.

I found the Bristlecone Project today, and thought you might find it helpful to have another option when you are wanting to work on this stuff. Sometimes it helps if we don't need to cut a new path through the scrub to climb the mountain, a bit of a path or some helpful pointer - anyway, I hope it is of use.

Kindest regards, 

Kristin