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28 Jun 2018 07:48 PM
28 Jun 2018 07:48 PM
Re: rough time
@Sans911 (how are you going? Here for you too)
You reackon this is enough ( theres 64)
Ive shown each colour and also each pattern ( each pattern has each colour)
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28 Jun 2018 07:51 PM
28 Jun 2018 07:51 PM
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Cockys,rosellas, little finches, minor birds, galas, rainbow lorikeets mainly with the occasional owl and other sorts tihay i cant think ok.
We have alot of animals around here even though we are pretty city like including snakes, foxes,wild rabbits and deer and the occassional kangaroo (and hoses cows sheep and goats on more of the properties)
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28 Jun 2018 07:54 PM
28 Jun 2018 07:54 PM
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Do you have the blue wrens? @outlander I always find them adorable and we have mopoks too.
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28 Jun 2018 07:57 PM
28 Jun 2018 07:57 PM
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Your home sounds beautiful with all these animals. I love animals native and introduced.
Sadly I got to call it a night. Have to get my son ready for bed. Night @outlander and don't let the bastards grind you down hun,. xxxxxxx
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28 Jun 2018 07:57 PM
28 Jun 2018 07:57 PM
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And i mainly see the brown finches
Oh and cranes, and hawks and kookaburras and i sont kno what they are called but they look like a crane but blue body and the rest of them are black
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28 Jun 2018 07:58 PM
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28 Jun 2018 08:37 PM
28 Jun 2018 08:37 PM
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It's taken me a while to get back to this post because there is a lot in it, and I had some things I needed to do. Also, I needed to write this up on my computer, and I wanted time to give this post a proper response @outlander
I think it's really important to start naming what those emotions are when you start to feel panic and being overwhelmed. Naming emotions helps us to recognise what we are feeling. Then the aim is to recognise these feeling BEFORE you get to be panicked and overwhelmed, and in major distress. When we get overwhelmed, floods of hormones are released, there are macro and micro changes within the brain, and all bring about change in our bodies. So suddenly what didn't hurt so much hurts like heck. And other hurts get fired up because there is an increase in blood flow, an increase in the lymphatic system, an increase in chemicals. I am not invalidating what you are feeling at all, simply breaking it down into a biological state, which I know you have awareness of, so you can see how much internal impact stress has on the body.
When we become aware of our emotions, and can head them off at the pass(deal with them) we still might get distressed, but it is less, and we recover from that faster and easier. You are having trigger after trigger after trigger, so some way/how you are going to have to learn to deal with them. And hopefully you will find someone who is just the right person to help you do that.
You can't change anything in the past that has happened. Yes, you can still feel the effects, but that changes nothing about what happened to you. And you can't do anything about the future either. I get that it feels uncertain, I really do, because I worry about the same thing too.
All you have control of, and can do anything about is NOW. That is all. And you can control your reactions and responses to situations so you don't drown in them. It takes time, effort, and repetition but it can be acheived. Have you ever kept a mood diary? I think that could be something useful for you. Just use an excercise book, and write down how you feel when you wake up, any mood changes during the day, and how you feel when you go to bed. You don't need to do anything with it at this stage. And you'll probably start noticing patterns in time. Do you think this might work for you?
I understand how scared and uncertain you are. I felt the same at your age, and still now. And I worry too much too. But in the last couple of years I have started to understand and accept that I can only work in this moment, and I can only deal and change this moment. I still worry too much, and I am very uncertain of my future, but I am also trying to let go of that uncertainity, and let things unfold in their own time. That is super scary trusting in the fact that things will be alright in time, however, if I don't accept that trust, it is when I am most suicidal.
For now you have very little outside support, so it is only fair you come here to seek it. You have a lot of people here that want to support you and care about you deeply. And it's totally fair to come here for help and support, because it is not always on one person. We can share the load around. That's why if someone is talking to you, you often don't see me, because it gives me some time out, and it is always good to have others input.
I don't know if you have noticed so much @outlander, but in the time I have known you, you have made a lot of changes and progressed quite a lot. Some things haven't changed for you, but you already recover quicker from distress, especially in the last few months. I think that is partly because you are learning to recognise those emotions, and you are learning to try to deal with them from getting worse. And even when you learn these strategies for dealing with emotions, sometimes it is good to have several of them. Like a toolbox. So when one strategy doesn't work, you have another.
Wow, now I have really rambled. And I am not tooting my own horn (well, maybe a little), but it might be worth keeping this post to look back on every few days. You don't need to make changes at the moment, but when you read something over and over, after a while you remember it, and then making those changes is easier, because you brain has already started to process it.
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28 Jun 2018 08:38 PM
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28 Jun 2018 09:09 PM
28 Jun 2018 09:09 PM
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I dont ever want you to feel pressured to be here either ok 🌻
I had thought of a mood journal but havent started it up. When i was looking at some of them it said to mark down everytime my mood changed if i did that i spend my day in the book bur something not quite as extensive as that would probably work. Im sure theres an app somewhere too.
The naming them is the one i struggle with the most. I can acknowledge some of the more common ones like anxious or sadness etc but sometimes i dont know what they are. They seem to just blend in to one without any real identifiable ones.
Lately i seem to be in this constant state of feel weird. Lik im wired up and i cant seem to detangle. I can use my coping methods etc but it just doesnt shift. Im.more sensitive to triggers since being like 'this' for the past few weeks wereas before i was at a generally uncomfortable state but it wasnt overbearing now it is all the time. Usually theres a reason but i cant identify one that would set this off for weeks unless it is because all of the medications are out of my system except one which doesn't have any effect yet.
Hoping that makes some sort of sense.
I get what you mean about living in the moment and the now but i dont really know how to do that. Im always bouncing everywhere past present future. I havent learnt to just live in the now or how to bring myself back to 'now' and not then or there.
'Learning to trust that everything will be alright' yes very scary esp when things are dark.
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28 Jun 2018 09:20 PM
28 Jun 2018 09:20 PM
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And yes i can recognise some changes. I wih there were more or more noticeable ones from my end but small changes are ok too. Have to start somewhere right.
I have noticed abit that im getting more anger not uncontrolled and nothing a door slam wont fix i think that is the frustration coming out though but it quickly subsides and then the sadness comes back. Thats something i need to better manage. I use to manage it with kickboxing sessions but will think of something else.
Ive gone off the beaten track now, but yes ive noticed some small changes.
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