SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

[Former-Member]

Yep, thank you, he's a pretty amazing boy. Thought I heard him a few times come in the back door. I have had a candle going all day today, by my girls photo for both of them.

My son tried to ring 1/2hr ago but I didn't pick up in time. Tried to ring back but no response, sent a text, but no response. Now I'm worried about him.

Having lots of palpitations despite taking it easy. Guess they'll pass.

The house feels really empty

[soul]

Claypan is such a cutie @Former-Member. Who gave him that name? Can't say I have ever known a dog called that. Love it though. No wonder you are missing him so much. His eyes are  full of expression. There will be many times when you expect him to be there and sadly he won't be ....

It must be so hard seeing his things - dog bowl, collar, lead etc. I remember the first dog we had when I was a kid. It was a stray mongrel cattle dog that my older brother had found and brought home. We ended up keeping him and had him for well over ten years. When he was close to dying, he took off for a few days. We thought he was gone. Then all of a sudden he returned and passed away the next day when I was at school. That afternoon, I went walking with my mother - the same route we used to go with this dog as a one last time. Cried my eyes out and had the following day off school.

Dogs are so amazing.

[Former-Member]

Oh @soul, that's a sad childhood story, our pets touch our hearts, become part of the family. Claypan was a purebred Tenterfield Terrior. Yes, his name is unusual, probably due to his clay fur patches, he was named by the breeder, but it gets better, Boogie is his middle name. Yep, 'Claypan Boogie' - right here in writing on his papers. My girl use to love calling him by his full name, and giggle every time those early years.

My son tx me back, said his call was a misdial, I'll tell him next we talk. Said he's out with friends. But my baby bro rang (first time in months, how weird is that) and was able to speak it out with him. Said can't imagine me without a pup in tow, haha. no, with all his problems, even sz , he's got more heart than any of them (when he's stable), but I couldn't talk long either

Trying hard to hold emotions steady so I don't fly off, disassociate or do something daft. Really shouldn't be alone but this is how it is. Appreciate that you're here.

What are you doing tonight?

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Former-Member ..... nothing special on for me tonight. Watching GoT probably .... but I will be around.

Have pasta tonight left over from last night, so that's easy ....

Is there a pet shop in town ? Can you pick up a budgie for immediate company and to give you someone else to look after and take up your attention a little bit ? A male budgie can learn to talk ..... and you could tell him all about Claypan across the next little while .....

Just a thought .....

Sending lotsa cyber-hugs your way .....

💕

[soul]

That name is even more gorgeous than ever now - Claypan Boogie - 😆 We got our dog for my daughter's birthday too. When she was 14. I had always had a dog growing up but had put off getting one as we often went away for holiday breaks. Our dog is nearly nine now and has never boarded in a kennel. She would hate it. She's such a Mummy's dog. Sleeps on my bed and is beside me on the sofa now. I told her that Lapses' best canine friend passed away and she looked at me as if she was saying that she would let you pat her.

Sorry if this is making you sad. I have been to gym, had dinner, cleaned up, showered, now just relaxing. 

Tenterfield Terriers are bundles of energy. Clay pan wouldn't have liked being sick. You did the kindest thing for him. Have you kept a memento? His collar perhaps? Allow yourself to be sad. Remember Claypan and honour him @Former-Member

[soul]

Why Grief Over the Death of a Dog Is So Intense

Psychologist Julie Axelrod pointed out that the loss of a dog is so painful because we are not losing just one thing; we experience multiple losses at the same time. We may be losing our primary companion, a source of unconditional love, a “life witness” who provides security and comfort to us, and maybe even a protégé whom we mentor like a child. The loss of a dog seriously disrupts your daily routine, even more profoundly than the loss of most friends and relatives, and changes in lifestyle and routine are one of the primary building blocks of stress.

A recent survey of bereaved pet owners documented the common experience of misperceiving ambiguous sights and sounds as the deceased pet. This occurs most frequently shortly after the death of the pet, especially among individuals who had very high levels of attachment to their pets.

I miss my dog more than I can say, and yet, I am sure that I will put myself through this ordeal again in the years to come. I'd like to finish this essay with another stanza from the Kipling poem:

When the body that lived at your single will,
With it’s whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!).
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone—wherever it goes—for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/out-the-ooze/201701/getting-over-rover-why-the-loss-dog-can-be-...

[Former-Member]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, you have earned axquiet night, nice to know you're around. Funny you mentioned a budgie, my bro said the same thing, and I've been fixing up a bird cage, joining two together, and a cute little one for stransport. Love the sound of burke birds and finches, @Adge has been educating me about birds, maybe a budgie will do till I can afford the others, good idea. In the meantime there's an inquisitive Butcher Bird this week comes wanting food for hungry offspring squawking nearby, that was a pleasant distraction cryingvon my veranda this morning, and my visiting yellow head Rosella. I feed them wild bird seed. There's a flock of rainbow lorakeets around lately too. The wild birds are company I guess 💜💕

@soul, thanks for sayingvi did the right thing, needed to hear that. Yes,Vi kept his collar and will never forget him, our oldest most loyal canine. // Your furball sounds gorgeous - sending a big cyber hug 🐾

Thank you, you're being like a family to me.

https://youtu.be/etRDlBbEuzE
Tribute to Claypan Boogie, a song by Slim Dusty

[Faith-and-Hope]

We are a family of friends @Former-Member ..... 💕

[soul]

What a great tribute. I gave that video a thumbs up @Former-Member. We have a budgie here too. He's only two,years old and belongs to my daughter who didn't really invest much time in teaching him to talk. The last budgie was super intelligent and could say quite a few phrases and words. 

Just watch out for the butcher birds though. They will attack smaller birds. I let the budgie fly around the house during the day and the neighbourhood butcher flies up to the screen door trying to get inside. 

I gave my pooch a hug, now she wants me to keep on patting her. 

[Adge]

A Budgie would be lovely @Former-Member They're very gregarious & chatty, especially when there's two or more of them together. Lovely little parrots.

Adge