SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

[soul]

Good for you @Former-Member. Have woken up, gentle rain outside. Need to get back to sleep. Cmon 😴😴😴

[Former-Member]

Yhanks @soul, imagine yourself laying down in a padded dingy thats afloat and rocking gently on the ocean, lapping water and gulls, winter sun and soft breeze. Pleasant dreams 💗💕

[Former-Member]

Today (Mon-10th) was emotionally draining bit I dragged my feet to the Ladies Study GP and took up an offer to meet for coffee and grabbed some croceries. Even spent 2hrs earlier researching our study topic. And mailed off plumbers cheque and mailed mum a card (with a beautiful glittering foenix on the front). But nearly didnt happen after a call about my parents leif me in tears.

Their home Nursing Service manager rang me back after an email i sent Friday trying to see if we can get better care for mum & dad. Don't know why but it really hurt to hear her say there was no mention of me on their file but that my uninvolved toxic sister and workaholic bro are down as contacts. Mother iscangry with both of them. The phone call was productive and they will try keep me in the loop because I seem to understand the systems better than the others.

It seems the problem lies with mum not allowing the ACAT (Aged Care Assessment Team) to come interview them. Without this piece of paper they cant do much. Dad is with DVA and somehow can access services without ACAT review. Its so complicated. Mum has cancelled dads showers a few times this last month which doesn't help. Think mum's confusing the assessment with mental competence hearing. She's so paranoid about being locked up. Really worried about the guardianship board. She might have a point but not likely as she's still kinda self managing, even with her severe anxiety.

The call drained me and I've been teary and headachy since, not really knowing why.

Sorry to bore you with all this, Maybe someone else knows these dynamics with ageing family.

Tonight i Accidently left phone in car all night. Just before when I went out looking for it the possum came down to take the celery out of my hand, very cute.

[Kurra]

@Former-Member
You can approach the guardianship board for assistance. It's not just for money matters but can also cover medical tupe stuff. Here it does anyway.

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Kurra, mum won't ever speak to me again if I sick guardianship board onto them. Maybe look at website for now. Ta

[Kurra]

She won't have to be told. It could be the DVA or ACAT. At least that's what she could be told by you. Is it lying. Technically yes but getting adequate care for your parents negates any sin.

[soul]

Thanks @Former-Member. Got back to sleep eventually then was woken by the garbos. Hope things get better with your parents' situation. I can relate to the siblings thing. It was like I didn't exist. 

[Owlunar]

Hi @Former-Member

I'm sorry about all the stuff with your parents and your siblings - I went through a lot of that - pushed out by my mother and my toxic sister - and seeing as they were in charge - I couldn't see Dad on his own until near the end - but that time was worthwhile

You are not alone with the toxic family thing - if that helps - without going into details it is really hard to have this going on when your family is getting old and it seems your mother is making things really hard for your father - 

Awwwwwww - why????

As @Kurra said - you can get onto people - I have no idea what - but do what ever you can about the guardianship thing - and as for lying - it's for your elderly oldies - push whatever you can

Thinking of you and understanding

Dec

[Former-Member]

Thanks guys, @soul, @Kurra, @Owlunar - appreciate that you got my back with this family stuff. I really could do with a family these days. You guys OK today? Know your on the mend Dec ✔

My day started very slow but I got to my physio apt - oh my goodness, what an amazing back massage 😀 A few spots hurt but he gave me some good exercises for resilience. He thinks the extreme pain days are because muscles have locked up. I don't understand it all. Feels like bone, but guess its all connected. Pain is subjective, and silent. Physio wants me to try loosen things up & increase flexibility... There's hope, finally. He also suggested hydrotherapy a couple of times a week. Anyway, I realised, after I left that I can't remember the last time someone touched me, my skin - did me good.

Went 2hrs walk around shops after that and it felt easier, more flexable, hard to explain.

Lost my car at the shops and after going up and down levels... I had to face tge music and ask security gor help. He found it using rego number, and walked me to my car, how sweet. I still don't know why I couldn't see it - very weird, and embarrassing lol. He said it happens a couple of times a day. I'*ll bet theyre all post menspausal women lol. Sure got my walking exercise in, big time, see if I'm sore tomorrow.

Getting cold here. Another frost I think 🙂

[soul]

Good  morning @Former-Member. Glad to hear that the physio treatment did you a lot of good. Touch is nice. There have been studies about babies who were orphans who thrived better when touched regularly as opposed to those who weren't picked up and cuddled much  Even stroking a dog has beneficial aspects. Try to schedule another massage in. Doesn't necessarily have to be from a physio. A relaxation one is good too. Must take my own advice.

Hydrotherapy is great for aches and pains. A bit of extra effort though in winter time with getting in and out of water, dressing etc.

You must have well and truly got your 10000 steps in too. 

About the car. I usually try to park in the same area when I go to shopping centres not that I do that much these days. I used to enjoy it but now it's a chore and I prefer to buy things online. I'm sure that my car magically moves itself. I have spent needless time wandering around and around looking for my car too.

Hope you feel good today.