Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script

[BPDSurvivor]

Hi mum @Shaz51 !

I'm preparing to wind down now so I can sleep and wake up early for work tomorrow. Not sure what the week holds except we how our Melb cup public holiday on Tuesday! Looking to go to the beach since it will be about 30 degrees.

 Any improvements with your mum?

BPDSurvivor

[HenryX]

Hello @Judi9877 

Your situation with your father is one that I can appreciate from the opposite perspective. I am the father in a similar scenario to your situation.

It has been discussed, in conversation between the counsellor and me, that I have been hesitant about interacting with my children because I had felt that my presence may cause them harm. This is apparently, a typical OCD type behaviour.

My eldest daughter kept contact with my mother, her grandmother, through me. It was not until after my mother passed away, and my daughter visited me, on her own, that I became aware that my daughter actually wanted to establish a connection between us, she and me. It may have been that my daughter viewed me in a different way to that which she had previously, because of the way that she had observed the way that I had cared for my mother, during the ten years prior to my mother's passing.

Since that time, we have enjoyed each others company in a relationship which is progressively developing in a very special way, for which I am most thankful.

I do hope that your relationship with your father may develop in a similar and very rewarding way for both of you.

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX 

[Shaz51]

hello my daughter @BPDSurvivor 

mum has improved from her infection even though the sore has not gone away ( doctor thinks it is a sun cancer )

waiting for mums new room downstairs to be painted -- she is ready to go into because her arms are soo sore from going up and down the steps 

today we did 5 hours ( 2 jobs ) cleaning today 

home now 

how has your day been 

Hello @Judi9877 , @BlueBay , @HenryX 

[BPDSurvivor]

Hi Mum @Shaz51 ,

I'm glad your mum's infection is going away. I hope you'll be able to see to the sore soon. I think it will be so much better she doesn't have to go up and down stairs... but does that mean you are away form her (upstairs) in the night? That's probably the hardest part in case you can't hear her.

For me today, i had a really good day. I had meetings in the morning, two lessons, then another meeting in the arvo. I'm so glad to be back onsite at work. It makes such a difference interacting with people. Of course I don't mean it is easy, but it is fulfilling.

This is the hardest part of having BPD - relationships. Yet I'm throwing myself in the deep end and delving more into making new relationships with people. There's still a lot of anxiety, but i know I need to do this in order to move forward.

How are you @HenryX @BlueBay @Judi9877 ?

[Shaz51]

That is a very good point my @BPDSurvivor 

I go downstairs to the toilet up to 4 times every night

And yes thinking of an idea for mum if she needs me 

I will be leaving the upstairs door open  xx

[HenryX]

Hello @BPDSurvivor and @Shaz51 , @BlueBay , @Judi9877 , @Daisydreamer 

Thanks for the tag @BPDSurvivor . Going reasonably well. Recognising limitations but also working to improve physical capacity and maintain mental/psychological capacity by meeting challenges as they arise, in the best way that I can.

Best Wishes to Everyone

@HenryX 

[BPDSurvivor]

@HenryX , you are very right and wise. That's all we can do. It's about recognising our limitations yet also strengthening our abilities.

Thank you for your posts,

BPDSurvivor

[BPDSurvivor]

Hi mum @Shaz51 ,

Some people come to the point of utilising a baby monitor in the room. I know it might be a bit early to need one just now, but just something to think about for the future. I guess she's not getting any younger.

Hope you're having a good sleep after your 2 jobs today. 

Take Care,

BPDSurvivor

[Judi9877]

Good evening @BPDSurvivor @HenryX @Shaz51 @BlueBay @Daisydreamer @Former-Member and everyone here. How is life going? 

Today, I spent the day finishing the second section of my Mental Health Recovery Blanket as well as speaking to a close male friend via text messages - very enjoyable I will say! See below for a photos my blanket! 

I will admit I'm struggling a bit with my BPD in regards to my relationship with my twin sister as it seems we're living in 2 different universes and all we seem to do is get into arguments. She works full time but doesn't like to recognise that I'm a uni student who also studies as a form of work (I count studying as work as my brain certainly gets a workout!) and does volunteer work here at Sane as I don't earn money doing that. I like to believe that my volunteer work is good for me as it gives me a sense of purpose and I know it could help me with my uni studies in the form of gaining valuable experience in mental health. My sister doesn't see it that way though.

Talk later,

Judi9877😎💐

[BPDSurvivor]

A totally agree with you @BlueBay . Studying and volunteering is work. I like how you mentioned that the work on SANE gives you a sense of achievement in being able to support others. Work is not always about making money.

As for being a twin, I see it as you are still two separate beings with separate strengths/weaknesses, likes/dislikes. I argued a lot with my sisters in the past. The sister I argued most with is the sister I'm closest to - could this be the case for you too? 

I love the blanket. It's like every stitch and square has a sentimental value attached to it - it is this value that keeps the blanket together.

 Thank you @Judi9877 .

 Please feel free to reach out here at anytime. I'm all ears.

BPDSurvivor