Moving but can't take my cat with me

[Simbolina707]

In December last year, the apartment I have been renting was sold.  I have made arrangements to live in a women's only boarding house, placing all of my belongings into storage.  The problem is that I can't take my cat with me, as the boarding house has a no-pets policy, and my cat and I have been together for 13 years.  My cat is my life's purpose, and I dread having to place her in foster care.  

I fear that I will struggle with my mental health more so when my constant companion is no longer with me, especially in times of distress.  

I just needed to get this off my chest.  I worry that when I do reunite with my fur baby that she won't be the same, and will lose the trust and love she has for me.  

Has anyone else gone through this and how did you cope?

[Misty5]

Poor you and poor fur baby although I am glad you can get foster care. I've had multiple hospitalisations and my cat.has recently spent about a long block with my mother and her cats as we couldn't get him in his carrier. He doesn't forget me, although he snobs me off for a couple of days when reunited. Best wishes!

[Simbolina707]

Thanks for your words of support. I hope you're doing well now. Sending you all the best : )

[rav3n]

hey there @Simbolina707 welcome to the forums!! 

i'm so sorry to hear about your situations, i can hear how worried you are for yourself and your cat. although i haven't dealt with a situation like yours, i do believe that cats, especially ones that have been there through thick and thin, will never forget their human carers. so i have faith that your cat will always trust and love you no matter what. sending you hugs 💙

[Simbolina707]

Thank you for your kind words and support, I appreciate it greatly. Wishing you all the best 🙂

[avant-garde]

Hey @Simbolina707 

30th March 2024 I had to take my dear little girl to stay with my best friend for an undetermined amount of time. 

At that stage I didn't know how long it would be due to the situation that I'm still navigating.

She is a black domestic medium hair with white whiskers and a white tuft on her chest. On here I call her Ebony because Raven was seemingly taken and would be too confusing.

She is 8.5 years old and I got her just after her 6th birthday. 

She gave me reason too.

I won't be able to have her back until I'm in government housing. 

I will get her back. 

I see her every week when I go visit my best friend for a few hours. 

She's a rescue and still doesn't trust humans. 

We've learned that she prefers men. 

I like to think she misses me but her fear of getting hurt drives a lot of her actions. 

She doesn't run as much as she used to.

I got her from a foster home, the last chance she had before... yep.

I rescued her and she rescued me. 

She gave me a reason to get up in the morning. 

I miss her fiercely. 

I was homeless for 9 months before getting into this place

We're not allowed pets here either. 

But I will get her back. 

My mental health did decline but I can't tell you whether it was the situation or not seeing my little girl. 

I know I say to myself and others that my schedule keeps me sane, because it does. 

My neighbours tell me I'm so busy, but I need to be. 

I'm part of multiple community groups who have walked this journey beside me, giving me something I need to get to, something to get up for.

They are how I'm getting through the day to day. 

And in those dark and lonely moments when I would go just sit in the same room as Ebony, I come here and know that someone else is feeling the same way I do and that I don't have to be alone in this feeling. 

If you want pictures, there's some on my profile but I know pictures don't always help. 

Well done for being brave and posting

[Simbolina707]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for also sharing your story. I hope you're doing okay, and that housing comes through for you soon. I am in a similar situation. I am in contention for a coop apartment but nothing has been finalised as I have been shortlisted at present. If I can get in the coop i can be with my baby (a domestic short hair rescue too) soon. I am holding her close and enjoying the time with her rather than packing right now - which I am going to have to do before the removalists arrive on Thursday next week : )