Intermittent Explosive Disorder

[NatureLover]

Hi @ArraDreaming  and @Blackbird11 , @Neek1977  has replied to you above 🙂

[Neek1977]

@Blackbird11 

thanks for the reply tip (I hope I did that right lol)

i just thought I’d mention to everyone wondering if they might possibly suffer with the same disorder as I do that the number 1 criteria you must exhibit to be accurately diagnosed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder is during every angry outburst the person must show their inability to refrain from the anger and rage and also be unable to prevent the physical assault of somebody or unable to stop themselves from destroying personal property.

each episode must contain a  verbally abusive form of rage +  an actual physical form of assault with the risk to cause  serious harm or destruction within the time frame of that one outburst

Also very important thing I forgot to mention is that the reason for the Explosive behaviour must be significantly less than the resulting attack...the reason and subsequent attack must also be  grossly out of proportion to each other and each episode must be an overreaction to the actual cause

[Neek1977]

@NatureLover 

Dont let her level of aggression fool you into thinking she despises being overly angry...as a person who’s major personality trait was anger, I know from experience that even if a person is actually feeling their anger as intensely as they are displaying it towards others, it does not mean that person is actually suffering with anger...in my case anger became second nature and it became a normal state of mind for me and I didn’t really become distressed...nowhere near to the level I’m sure I was portraying outwardly

Anger did have an enormous negative impact on my general quality of life over the course of a few decades but every day  on a day-to-day basis, damage didn’t present itself or cause me any other unnecessary stress

anyhow, sorry back to your neighbor problem...I am not a clinical psychiatrist or a mental health expert by any means, and I very well could be wrong here but the fact that your neighbor consistently puts herself into situations where she has to communicate her intense anger towards you’s and quite often from what I can gather which JUST ISNT NORMAL~!!!

Again, as a naturally angry person, (I can say this with much confidence), that normally, when a person is feeling angry for whatever reason, they do not feel like visitors, chit-chatting with others, or even putting themselves into a public location because instinctively, we don’t want people to witness us while we are in a less than friendly mood...that’s factual...and an angry person overall will stay out of the way of everyone else because it’s just the way we are.

This neighbor of yours is putting herself into the position again and again and again and exhibiting anger and more anger and more anger every time you all find yourselves in a together-like situation.

Straight away that tells me that she is not actually feeling angry at all because she puts herself repeatedly within the company of other people...which as I said, normal angry people will not do when they are truly feeling angry.

I can’t really break it down any more than I have, but believe me she is NOT angry even when it seems like a certainty that she must be feeling it

She’s not which I will again, put my money on her being some kind of Sociopath who is getting her evil jollies on something involving that angry abuse she continues to repeat...and I’m guessing it’s somebody else’s reaction to her insane anger.

I will put it a different way so what I’m saying will make more sense to you and others ok...I’m going to post a video link of a parrot displaying an angry outburst but it is very hard to remember (as you watch it) that the bird is not actually feeling any of the anger it’s portraying 😶🙃 and that is the closest comparison I can think of in describing your neighbor’s actions lol

https://youtu.be/XM8aBESf8EI?feature=shared

Check out the video and hopefully you will understand what I mean.

Neek xx

[Kyle1]

Did you ever read Richard Bach, @NatureLover ?

I remember reading in one of his books that anger is just sadness inside out. 

Perhaps this neighbour of yours is awefully sad. 

A cut snake is mad. A wounded dog will bite. She may just need a hug. 

(Or a solid regiment of colonics)?

Perhaps you could ask her which one she'd prefer? ... 🤣

[NatureLover]

Hi @Kyle1 , yes, I do think that my neighbour is sad and damaged. I feel sorry for her. 

[NatureLover]

Hi @Neek1977 , thanks for the information and for your link...unfortunately I'm incredibly fragile at the moment and can't cope with watching anything angry. But I appreciate your insider knowledge.